A bride-to-be recently revealed that her bridesmaid upset her by booking a vacation at the same hotel where she was spending her honeymoon at the time.
In a post on British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman shared that she was considering removing the bridesmaid from her wedding party due to the incident.
She alleged that her friend knew the destination and date of the honeymoon before making the reservation.
The bride-to-be added that she feels so uncomfortable with her partner’s decision that she is considering demoting her to a wedding guest.
However, her post divided opinion on Mumsnet, with some users suggesting that punishing the bridesmaid would make her a ‘bridezilla’.
A bride-to-be revealed on Mumsnet that her bridesmaid booked the same hotel as her honeymoon getaway for the same date (file image)
They added that she has no right to control when and where other people go on vacation.
the publication read: ‘I recently found out that one of my bridesmaids has just booked to go to the same place we are going on our honeymoon at the same time!
‘For context, she knew when and where we were going, so she wasn’t unaware when she booked the holiday.
“This has made me feel really weird and I really don’t feel comfortable with this, there’s nothing I can do to get her to go on vacation at the same time, but now I really don’t think I want her as a bridesmaid anymore.” How should I approach this?
One person said: ‘I’m sorry to tell you, but this is incredibly Bridezilla.’ You can’t control when and where other people go on holiday.’
Another said: “I wouldn’t do it on purpose but if it happened by accident I’d think the bride would be very bridezilla if she objected.” And if he did it on purpose, I’d still see him as Bridezilla. You can’t tell someone where to spend their time or how to spend their money.
“It’s obviously jealousy because they want it to be a special honeymoon place and for the other person it’s just a normal vacation.”
‘If you want to prohibit people from entering your space, book a private villa. What difference does it make whether you know them or not, whether there are people around you or not?
On the British parenting platform, the woman revealed that she was considering removing the bridesmaid from the wedding party due to the incident.
However, some people claimed that this would make her look like a ‘girlfriend’, saying that she can’t control when and where other people go on holiday.
A third comment said: ‘This seems a bit irrelevant. If someone is a good enough friend to be your maid of honor and goes out of their way to make your wedding special, then I really don’t see why it would be so difficult if you later saw this very good friend again on your honeymoon. .
—That is if it is likely that you will see them first, since you have not clarified if it is the same city or the same hotel.
“Some of our friends joined us for part of our honeymoon and it was actually very nice, it never felt like an imposition, let alone something to end a friendship.”
However, some people admitted that it was strange that the bridesmaid wanted to “break into the honeymoon”, urging the bride to “stand up for herself”.
One person wrote: ‘I mean, OP, this woman has the brass neck to ruin your honeymoon, but are you worried about telling her she’s no longer a bridesmaid? Please defend yourself, not rudely, but plain and simple.
Others acknowledged that it was “pretty strange” that the bride’s friend wanted to “break into the honeymoon” and urged her to “stand up for herself.”
Another said: ‘That’s a bit strange. Doesn’t he understand that you want space and privacy? Is she the type of person who loves to be the center of attention?
“I think before removing her as a bridesmaid you just need to ask her why she booked at the same time and explain how it makes you feel. If she refuses to change the date or location, tell her that she can no longer be a bridesmaid and explain to her the reason.’
Someone else chimed in: ‘Pretty weird. I wouldn’t ask and change hotels. A fourth said: “If it’s not a financial disaster, I’d actually rebook my own honeymoon as well as saying goodbye.” The last thing you want is to see her after this. Is there any other resort you like?