A frustrated woman has revealed that her husband spends an hour in the bathroom every morning before work and comes home late every night.
On British parenting platform Mumsnet, the frustrated wife explained that her partner spends so much time in the bathroom “watching videos” that he is often late for work, meaning he has to stay later.
The mother of two said her spouse doesn’t get home until 8 p.m. most nights and therefore doesn’t help with her little one and baby’s bedtime routine.
After asking others for advice, many rushed to the comments to suspect her husband might be having an affair.
He read post: ‘Every morning, my designated hitter sets an alarm for 6 a.m., since he has an hour’s commute to work.
A frustrated woman has revealed that her husband spends an hour in the bathroom every morning before going to work (file image)
“He often gets up then, but spends up to an hour in the bathroom. I’m pretty sure he’s watching videos or reading nonsense there.
“Then you’ll start getting ready, etc., which means you don’t come to work until late, which means you work late and never get home before 8 pm.”
‘We have a baby and a toddler and he never comes back at bedtime and doesn’t help in the morning while he’s in the bathroom either!’
‘AIBU to tell you some home truths? He always complains that he is late for work and “doesn’t know where the morning is going.”
Some questioned whether the man was having an affair considering he comes home late every night and takes his phone to the bathroom.
One person said: ‘Set a bathroom alarm.’ If he doesn’t improve, I would consider whether he needs to see a doctor or whether he might be having an affair.’
Another added: “Unfortunately I don’t see any other reason for spending an excessive amount of time in the bathroom and I don’t think it’s simply a case of ‘what men do’ other than hiding something secretly or avoiding something.” someone.
“I have never encountered a man who spends long periods of time in the bathroom to the point of being late for work every day. The only time I heard of this happening was on MN threads where the OH spends long periods of time in the bathroom texting another woman.
“I’m definitely not saying this is the case with the operation, but it sounds like you’re avoiding any kind of morning routine with your baby and toddler and arriving so late for work that you have to stay behind and conveniently miss your bath time routine.” to go to bed.
On the British parenting platform Mumsnet, the frustrated wife explained that her husband spends so much time in the bathroom “watching videos” that he is often late for work, meaning he has to stay later.
Meanwhile, others believed that her husband did it on purpose to avoid any childcare responsibilities.
One person said: ‘He’s doing this on purpose because he thinks you should do everything.’ He had children but he doesn’t want any responsibility and is willing to watch you go down. Definitely talk to him. This is not going on.’
Another said: ‘Is this a boy thing? I can’t imagine any woman I know spending an hour in the bathroom unless she’s really sick. Isn’t he just there hiding from his own children so he doesn’t have to parent them? Shameless so-and-so.
Someone else wrote: ‘Do you spend an hour in the bathroom watching videos? Who the hell wants to spend an hour in the bathroom?
‘He knows what he’s doing op. Let me guess: this “potty habit” has only developed since I had kids? He’s doing it on purpose so he doesn’t have any responsibility for taking care of the little ones!’
The woman responded to people’s comments by saying that she doesn’t believe her husband is having an affair but that he is probably shirking his responsibilities.
Some people believed that her husband did it on purpose to avoid having to take care of the children. Meanwhile, others suggested practical solutions that may solve the problem.
She said: “He’s not having an affair. I’m sure he’s watching videos of dogs and cyclists, I can hear them!” We have several bathrooms, so that’s not a problem. It is the time that is taken away from other things.
‘If you wanted to, you could leave at 7, be at work at 8 and leave between 4:30 and 5, and come home at 6 to go to bed. I pointed all this out to him and he said it’s his free time and I’m home all day.
‘Everything I say about the amount of time spent at work gets rejected because I’m not at the ATM at work. I feel like he’s right in that sense, but I never have a minute to go to the bathroom or do anything else like exercise, etc.’
One person added: “Frivolous comments aside, your designated hitter has literally told you that he’d rather sit in the bathroom for hours than help you or spend time with you and the kids.”
Meanwhile, others suggested practical solutions that may solve the problem completely.
One person said: ‘You could remove the lock and send the kids to dad and/or take his phone away so he can’t play with it.’
‘Failing that, open the door and ask him what he’s doing. If you are in front of him, he won’t be able to deny it.
“Then take it out of his hand.” You could also change the alarm so that he has to come down from the PDQ throne. Or just get ready to have a major Barney. Why should their definition of reasonable behavior be yours?
‘Instead of justifying yourself to him, let him justify himself to you. Jokes about his childish behavior at family gatherings. Ask his mother for advice. It’s the truth, isn’t it?
Another said: “I would say, ‘So you don’t want to be a father?’ Brilliant. Ok, we have to start making plans to separate and classify them if you want to have contact with the children.”
The woman responded to people’s comments by saying that she doesn’t believe her husband is having an affair but that he is probably shirking his responsibilities.
‘That may sound a little harsh, but I mean, come on, you can’t choose not to be a parent. Do you really want your kids to like you and spend time with them, etc., etc.?
‘If not, you better solve it now. He may be horrified and recover, but…’
Someone else wrote: “The only thing I can think of is for you to get up at the same time as him and go to the gym or run while he’s still at home.”
‘Be very clear about this, both verbally and by text, after putting on your shoes but before running out the door.
‘Unless it’s someone who can’t be trusted to look after your kids (and your decision to do so should inform your follow-up), you’ll have to spend time with them as a dad until you get home. Make sure you get home on time so that you arrive at work at your usual time.
‘I’m not saying it’s an easy choice, but it logically advances the issue. Anything he says about not being able to prepare while taking care of his kids is something you can use when he suggests you can do it. I hope you find a way to fix it.’
