A wife has caused a stir after listing everything she doesn’t do for her husband.
Paige Turnerfrom the United States, wanted to make it clear that she is her partner’s wife, not his mother or personal assistant.
And so, the mother of four doesn’t do his laundry, cook for him, make his lunch or schedule any of his appointments.
While these may be seen as “small acts of kindness,” Paige said doing her husband’s chores is a form of “housework” that “just adds to the work at the end of the day.”
“There are a lot of things I don’t do for my husband,” she said in a TikTok that has now gone viral.
“I don’t wash my husband’s clothes, he can do it himself. I wash my clothes and we wash the children’s, but he washes his.
“I don’t cook, he does it every night. I prepare breakfast and lunch for us and our children.”
The confession came as a shock to some women who said they “love” doing these mundane tasks for their partners.
Paige Turner from the United States wanted to make it clear that she is her husband’s wife, not his mother or personal assistant, and that is why she does not wash his clothes, cook for him, make his lunch or schedule dates for him.
Paige went on to share what else she doesn’t do for her partner.
“I don’t make him lunch. If he’s hungry, he thinks for himself what he’s going to eat for lunch, just like me,” she revealed.
“I don’t make him an appointment because guess what? He doesn’t make appointments. Would it be nice of me to do that? Sure. Is it my job? Absolutely not. I want him to be healthy, but he’s a grown man, he can make his own appointments.”
Paige also doesn’t schedule his haircuts, pack his clothes for vacations, and buy him new underwear when he needs it.
However, she shows her love in other ways, such as buying him something he might like.
“If I see a vinyl record that I think he’ll like, I’ll buy it. I’m in the store and I see something I think he’ll like to eat, I’ll buy it. If I find a new non-alcoholic beer that he wants to try, I’ll buy it,” he said.
“But when it comes to housework, these are not acts of kindness.”
She admitted that she does these tasks sometimes if her husband works late or to help with household chores.
“But just because I don’t do that doesn’t mean I don’t show love or kindness to him – they’re different things,” she said.
‘It’s not my job as a wife, it’s not in my job description, to do all the household chores as little acts of kindness to my partner and get nothing in return.
“I am not my husband’s personal secretary or his personal assistant, I am none of those things. I am his partner, I am his equal and I don’t have to do anything to please him and serve him at all times, to be kind and loving to him.”
The confession came as a shock to some women who said they “love” doing these mundane tasks for their partner (file image)
The video has since gone viral, surpassing a staggering 5.3 million views, with opinions divided in the comments.
Some women said they feel proud to do the above tasks for their husbands.
“I’m a stay-at-home wife. I do all of those things and more and I’m very happy. However, if I feel overwhelmed, he always steps in and helps me out. Every marriage is different,” one woman wrote.
“I would do anything for my husband. He is my king!” said another.
“It seems like there is no love in your relationship. My wife and I do everything together, we don’t have separate ‘jobs’. That’s the key… TOGETHER. If you can’t do that, why did you get married?” added a third.
But others couldn’t believe that Paige’s list was considered “controversial” by some.
“The fact that people are surprised by this MAKES ME ANNOYED. I can’t imagine how she manages to go to her appointments or lunches. For laundry, we take turns choosing who does it and we’re pretty even,” said one.
“Preach. Criticizing your spouse as a parent is a turn off,” added another.
“Looks like you’re his wife, not his mother. I love this for you, queen,” another person wrote.
Someone else said: “Funny how no one ever criticized my ex-husband for not doing my laundry when we were both working.”
“Small acts of kindness are only small when they are not done to you and are reciprocated,” added another.