- A woman didn’t know how to react after her partner forgot the milestone
- She took to Reddit to ask whether she should remind him or not.
- Hundreds of people responded to their plight and offered their advice.
A woman was left devastated after her partner of 30 years forgot her 60th birthday.
He took to Reddit to express his frustration with the situation and ask for advice on his next step.
“Today I turn 60 and my partner of 30 years has not recognized it. Should I tell him?’ she titled the post to the Ask UK subreddit.
‘Today is my birthday and although we had planned a big party for next weekend, when I woke up this morning I was expecting a ‘Happy birthday!’ and a smile.’
A woman took to Reddit to ask how she should respond after her partner of 30 years forgot her 60th birthday.
Redditors offered both creative and creatively vindictive solutions (stock image)
‘I didn’t receive anything. He started drinking my coffee, but he does it almost every morning. At first I thought maybe he had forgotten, but now I think he thinks he doesn’t have to say anything because we are going to have a big party this weekend.
‘Am I being too sensitive? Should I tell him? If so, how?’
Hundreds of people took to the comments to share their thoughts on how they should approach the disturbing situation.
“I would have thought that if you’ve been married to someone for thirty years you would know how to talk to them,” one wrote, adding: “I would personally see how long I can leave them before they notice.”
—I would make a joke about it. “I can’t believe they changed my birthday!” Or “I saw on TV that we should ask simple questions to screen for dementia. First I’ll ask you, when is my birthday?” one trickster suggested.
‘I’m going to say that the least I would expect on ANY birthday is for my wife to wish me a happy birthday. Don’t let this fester and ruin your day, just ask him about it,” a third chimed in.
He’s given you the best birthday gift of all: the chance to use it against him for the next twenty years. I would rub my hands with joy. Happy Birthday!’ –offered a commentator with the glass half full.
‘Happy Birthday. Go out and buy a big cake. Eat it all yourself. No one ever has to know,” someone else recommended.
Commenters presented a wide variety of creative (and creatively vindictive) strategies for responding to a partner’s memory lapse.
Fortunately, the story had a happy, revenge-free ending, and the woman shared that her partner had come home apologizing for not remembering her birthday first thing in the morning.
The woman seemed open to this plan and responded: ‘There’s a Costco not far away. Go big or go home.’
Another suggestion proposed a particularly clever solution: ‘Buy this “Acknowledge Me” t-shirt from WWE wrestler Roman Reigns. Then write “Birthday” on a piece of construction paper and use some tape to stick it to the shirt. “Acknowledge my birthday.” Then use it at home.
To this, the woman responded with apparent seriousness: “This can work.”
But fortunately for her, it turned out that she didn’t need to follow any of the advice she had received from the thread.
She shared a follow-up comment: ‘UPDATE: He just arrived at my home office (I quickly minimized this window) and gave me a big hug, admitting that he had forgotten because he was so focused on both work and the party. next weekend. .
‘He sheepishly apologized, which was exactly the best possible outcome. Now I have my birthday recognized and also a good story and/or some ammunition to save for another day.
‘There you go. I canceled the “recognize me” t-shirt (sic) order and now I will share my Costco pie with him instead of eating it from across the table, staring at him. Thank you all for the great passive-aggressive suggestions that made me smile. Much appreciated!’