A father who used surrogacy to welcome his daughters has opened up about the heartbreaking dark sides of the process that no one talks about.
As a “single gay man,” Eran Amir, 47, from New York, knew his options were “limited” when he decided he wanted to have children.
He eventually turned to surrogacy, but his journey to parenthood was “emotionally, financially and logistically challenging” in ways he never expected.
Not only did he have to struggle immensely to find the right gestational carrier, but once he contacted a surrogate, he admitted that he was filled with fear of the constant “unknowns” and “what ifs.”
Now a father of two, Eran is very grateful to have been able to use surrogacy to welcome his daughters – Ariel, six, and Yael, three – but admitted the process took many more “twists and turns.” than I expected. expected.
A father who used surrogacy to welcome his daughters has opened up about the heartbreaking dark sides of the process that no one talks about.
She spoke exclusively to DailyMail.com about the harsh reality of using a surrogate in the hope of helping others who may be going through something similar.
“Receiving my daughters through surrogacy was undoubtedly one of the most rewarding experiences of my life, but it was not easy at all,” she admitted.
‘It started with a dream – the desire to be a father – and quickly became a complex puzzle of decisions, emotions and logistical obstacles.
‘One of the biggest challenges was the constant uncertainty. You are going through a process full of unknowns and many of them are out of your control.’
Eran explained that the first obstacle he faced was finding the perfect person to carry his son.
She said she spent months “researching agencies” and searching for a surrogate who shared her “values.”
“There’s a lot of trust involved and it’s a daunting task to choose someone to take care of your child when so much is at stake,” she explained.
Finally, “a union was made,” but what came next was no easier.
As a “single gay man,” Eran Amir (seen with his daughters), 47, from New York, knew his options were “limited” when he decided he wanted to have children.
He eventually turned to surrogacy, but his journey to parenthood was “emotionally, financially and logistically challenging” in ways he never expected.
Not only did he have to struggle immensely to find the right agency and gestational carrier, but once he contacted a surrogate, he admitted that he was filled with fear from the constant “unknowns.”
She recalled “anxiously” waiting for the embryo transfer and “holding her breath” during each medical update.
Eran said the nine-month pregnancy “felt like a marathon” and recalled feeling “helpless” and “helpless” much of the time.
‘I was constantly worried: would everything turn out okay? Did I support my surrogate enough? said.
‘Each step brought a mix of anticipation and fear, and I spent months living in that tense space of “what if?”
“It’s a strange feeling to be so deeply connected and at the same time physically distant.
“I often felt a little helpless, I wanted to do more, but I knew I had to trust the process and let go of that need to control everything.”
He said he wanted to be “involved in every step” but admitted he often felt “detached.”
She also faced numerous “legal obstacles” and reflected on the immense financial burden of using a surrogate mother.
“Each state has different laws on surrogacy and you have to be meticulous to ensure that all the details, from parental rights to medical decisions, are followed,” he said.
Eran is grateful to have been able to use the process to welcome his two daughters, Ariel, six, and Yael, three, but admitted it has a lot more “twists and turns” than he expected.
She spoke exclusively to DailyMail.com about the harsh reality of using a surrogate in the hope of helping others who may be going through something similar.
‘Then there is the financial aspect. Surrogacy is a significant investment, and managing the financial aspects (making sure I made the right decisions while staying on budget) added another layer of complexity to an already complicated process.’
Despite all the hardships she faced, Eran said the moment she hugged her daughter for the first time, she knew it was worth it.
“I felt like all the stress and fear dissolved in an instant,” she gushed. ‘In the end, it’s all worth it.
“When you finally hold your baby, the distance disappears and all you feel is pure love and appreciation.”
Eran has now launched his own company, called Go storkwhich is dedicated to helping others “find, compare and connect with the best fertility providers.”
“I didn’t want others to feel as lost or overwhelmed as I did,” he said of the business.
“I wanted to offer a resource that would make this journey a little easier because I know firsthand how challenging it can be.”
