A mother of the groom cries after the bride’s family called her “stingy” and insisted she pay for a lavish rehearsal dinner, even though she explained she couldn’t afford it.
Details of the family feud were revealed by the groom’s brother in the Reddit thread titled Wedding Shaming.
He explained that the bride’s “rich” family had been insisting on a rehearsal dinner for 150 guests at a cost of $37,000, and that the entire cost would be borne by the groom’s family.
But relations got out of control when the future husband’s parents explained that they could not afford to cover such a considerable sum.
The groom’s mother cries after the bride’s family calls her “stingy” and insists she pay for a lavish rehearsal dinner.
In the post, which was shared earlier this week, the groom’s brother began: ‘My family is in the middle of this right now and I just need to rant!’ Please tell me I’m not crazy for thinking this is out of line.
‘My brother is getting married this fall to a woman who comes from a VERY wealthy southern family (our family is solidly middle class). The bride recently chose her wedding venue, a large resort. “It looks beautiful and we are very excited for them.”
But he said things started to get worse after the location was chosen.
‘My mother (the MOG) receives a call from the bride’s mother. The MOB then proceeds to tell my mom that SHE has already chosen the location for the rehearsal dinner at the resort; They want about 150 guests and the resort’s caterer will soon contact my mother with pricing information.
‘My mother is a little overwhelmed by the pressure of the MOB, but agrees to wait and see the information from the caterer before making a decision about the rehearsal dinner.
‘Well, the information is in and the cheapest possible catering for the rehearsal dinner is $165 per person. It doesn’t even include the rental fee or service fee of 24 percent plus 9 percent tax. In total, hosting the rehearsal dinner would cost my parents almost $37,000.
Delving into his family’s financial situation, the groom’s brother candidly shared, “My family doesn’t have that kind of money.”
‘My mother immediately calls the MOB and says that unfortunately they can’t afford that kind of rehearsal dinner. She apologized profusely and asked if they could offer something less expensive at a nearby restaurant.
He explained that the bride’s “rich” family had been insisting on a rehearsal dinner for 150 guests at a cost of $37,000, with the entire fee to be borne by the groom’s family (file image).
‘The MOB immediately gets angry and says this can’t be done as all the wedding guests will already be staying at the resort hotel and won’t be able to drive to an outside restaurant because they will be drinking.
‘Unfortunately, at that point my mother realized that she needed to tell the MOB that, in reality, our family would not be staying at the resort hotel either. We’d love to, but a room for two at the resort for that weekend starts at $550 a night, which is too expensive for us.
‘This further angered the MOB, who went on to say that my parents were being “stingy” and, I quote, “The room is only $550 a night! It’s not even that much!”
“The MOB went on to say that her daughter wanted everyone to stay at the resort and have the rehearsal dinner there, and that she would be very disappointed when she heard this news.”
The doting son said his mother had been left “crying and feeling overwhelmed” after being “worried she might be wrong”.
But the whole saga did not end there.
Later that night, the groom’s father received a phone call from the bride’s father.
‘He told my dad that he was calling to “clear up any confusion” about his wives’ earlier conversation and to reiterate why it was so important for my parents to host the rehearsal dinner at the venue.
‘He talked to my dad for a long time and they finally agreed on a much smaller rehearsal dinner (45 people) at the resort.
‘My dad told the FOB that it was still a lot of money for them, so unfortunately they would stay at an Airbnb half a mile from the resort instead of the resort hotel to save money. He promised that our family would still attend all the wedding festivities.
‘The FOB replied “Well, I guess it’s the cheapest option” and they hung up. The girlfriend has not contacted my parents since then.
The groom’s brother concluded, “I really hope this drama calms down before the event.”
The post was quickly flooded with comments, with most rushing to defend the groom’s family.
The post was quickly flooded with comments, with most rushing to defend the groom’s family.
One person wrote: ‘There’s never anything wrong with replying “That’s not in my budget.”
‘There is no shame in doing something else with your money. The groom has to pay or close this.
A second person commented: ‘That’s just rude. “In situations like this, where there is a big difference in income, the richer family picks up the slack, if they expect this level.”
Another added: “If these are the expectations of the in-laws, then they have to pay for it.” His rudeness and blatant lack of manners and manners would make me reevaluate everything.
Someone else commented: ‘If the bride’s parents decide where the event (rehearsal dinner) will take place and make the guest list for the event, then they are officially the hosts and should pay for it.’
But, on the other hand, there were some readers who thought it was the couple’s fault.
But, on the other hand, there were some readers who thought it was the couple’s fault.
One person wrote: ‘This is crazy. Your parents should not be made to feel this way nor should they be forced to spend money on this. Your brother and his fiancée should take care of this themselves. Talk to your brother!’
Someone else commented: ‘I hope your daughter finds out about this and comes forward. This is not a healthy way to raise a family. Resentments will last for YEARS.
‘Maybe share this post with the bride and groom to give them a clue as to what’s going on. At least give them a chance to intervene.
Another shared: “I sincerely hope the bride is shocked by her parents’ rude behavior. What bullies. They can’t be very decent people.
‘Why are parents making all these decisions instead of the couple who are actually getting married?’ another person added.
One person joked: “Almost 50 grand (dollars) for people to practice walking and then eating is actually pretty fun.”