Actress Eva Mendes admitted that her parenting style “isn’t fair” to her children and opened up about the difficulties of raising her children with her husband Ryan Gosling.
The star, 50, shares daughters Esmeralda, 10, and Amada, eight, with Ryan, 43.
Although Hollywood heavyweights are known for being extremely private when it comes to their family, the Hitch star is now letting fans in on her challenges as a mother.
Eva, who has been in a romance with Ryan since 2011, revealed the “hardest part” of parenting and the one thing she wishes she could stop doing while speaking to the host of Parenting and you podcast, Dr. Shefali.
The actress held back tears and confessed that she “doesn’t like” herself when she “yells” at her children, adding that she doesn’t want them to grow up “scared.”
Actress Eva Mendes admitted that her parenting style “isn’t fair” to her children and opened up about the difficulties of raising her children with her husband Ryan Gosling.
Eva revealed that she likes to work in the same room as her children so she can feel “connected with them.”
However, she admitted that the overwhelming amount of emails and her children’s constant need for attention sometimes tests her patience.
She revealed that although she tries to practice gentle parenting, she finds herself reverting to the way her parents raised her, which is through yelling.
‘I don’t shout when they need me. I never say “shut up.” It’s not like a “bad” scream, but it doesn’t matter. Shout. And it is these screams that I find so cultural.
‘I’m having a hard time communicating and not shouting. The rush and the shouting, that’s what costs me the most,” confessed the actress.
Eva admitted that she does everything she can to avoid raising her voice at her children.
When she can’t keep calm, the mother of two revealed that she often thinks about the things she could do better and what kind of mother she is.
‘I don’t like myself. I act like a baby,’ he said while remembering the times when he yelled at his children.
The star, 50, shares daughters Esmeralda, 10, and Amada, eight, with Ryan, 43 (seen in 2013).
The actress held back tears and confessed that she “doesn’t like” herself when she “yells” at her children and added that she doesn’t want them to grow up in “fear.”
His confession prompted her to remember the way she was raised.
“I hope I don’t look back in 20 years and say, ‘Oh, shoot,’ because I really don’t want to parent out of fear. That’s (sorry, I get emotional) because it’s not fair to the kids.
“I hope I’m not unknowingly putting pressure on them out of fear, like when they raised me,” he said.
Eva was raised by Cuban parents Eva Pérez Suárez and Juan Carlos Méndez.
Although she grew up with an overwhelming amount of love, the actress admitted that she also felt fear.
She noted that before becoming a mother, she never wanted to be like her mother.
‘I’m surprised how much I look like my mother. I adore her. “She is on a pedestal… but yes, my house when I was little was very chaotic, a lot of shouting, a lot of anxiety, a lot of agitation, even though I had a loving family,” said the actress.
Eva admitted that she had a “very difficult, trauma-filled childhood,” before noting that “I felt very embarrassed because I thought, ‘I’m having a great time.’ My mom fought to get here. the only one born in the United States. How dare I complain?
Despite struggling with certain aspects of parenting, Eva noted that she is grateful to have had children when she was older.
Despite struggling with certain aspects of parenting, Eva noted that she is grateful to have had children when she was older.
Star and fellow 13-year-old Ryan fell in love while working on the 2012 film, The Place Beyond The Pines (seen in 2012).
‘When I was 20, I shouldn’t have even been around a child. I was just talking trash and smoking. I couldn’t have raised children at any other time in my life, but now, for sure,” she said.
At the end of the clip, Eva reflected on her decision to step away from the spotlight and focus on her family.
‘Easiest decision I’ve ever made. “I was older and I knew that my children would be little one day, and whatever I do or don’t do now will affect them for the rest of their lives,” she said.
Star and 13-year-old partner Ryan fell in love while working on the 2012 film, The Place Beyond The Pines.
Eva has since focused on other business projects after the couple became parents and appears to have no plans to return to movie sets anytime soon.
Earlier this year, the Ghost Rider star revealed that she and Ryan have a sort of “non-verbal agreement” when it comes to her quitting acting and being a “full-time mom” to their two young daughters.
The Canadian actor has continued making films since welcoming his children, while Eva took a backseat.