A young woman has sparked a fierce debate online after sharing the text message she received from a man after a first date.
Elizabeth Castaldi, from Rhode Island, United States, met the 35-year-old man and had a pleasant evening, but was upset by the “bad” message she received the next morning.
The 27-year-old nanny and business owner took a screenshot of the private text and shared it on TikTok along with the caption, “Is he a bad texter or is he over 35?”
‘Hey, I had fun last night. Have a good day,’ the message said.
‘Me too! I hope your day is going well,’ Elizabeth responded four hours later.
Elizabeth Castaldi, from the US, went on a date with a 25-year-old man and had a fun night, but was disappointed by the message she received the next day.
The man’s message read: “Hey, I had fun last night.” Have a good day’ and four hours later Elizabeth replied: ‘Me too! I hope your day goes well.’ The 27-year-old captured the private text and shared it on TikTok with the caption: “Is he a bad texter or is he over 35?”
The conversation caught the attention of more than 583,000 people and ignited a debate in the comments.
The exchange led some to question what was wrong with the message, while others resonated with the experience.
Elizabeth clarified that she didn’t have the ‘ick’ but couldn’t determine if he was interested in her from the message.
‘Let’s be clear, I don’t have the disgust. “I just can’t read it and I really want to go on a second date,” she said.
‘However, I wish he would ask for a second date. He didn’t want to seem anxious and neither did I.
‘We had a great conversation in person, but I don’t know if he’s really interested! I figured he would ask to see me again.
“I thought he wasn’t interested, so I was just reflecting his energy…I’m nervous because I kinda like him.”
Many described the behavior as “normal” for a millennial man.
The next day, Elizabeth messaged him again, but the conversation was dry (pictured).
Elizabeth then messaged the man and wrote: ‘Good morning! “I’m free on Wednesday and I’d love to see you again.”
But some called his response an “evasion.”
‘Hello good morning. Next week I may be a little crazy with work since I have some deals closed. Basically, I’m not sure I can make it to RI. So maybe let’s take it a little by ear,” she replied.
‘Don’t worry sweetheart! If you want to choose a center point, that’s fine! I’ll leave that to you,’ she said.
“Yes, I don’t have a car in the city, which makes the central point difficult,” he replied.
Elizabeth then left it up to him to choose the time and place to go on another date, but she still has to plan something.
The blonde beauty told FEMAIL that dating is going “well”, although she has had few “bad dates”.
“I tend to be a little old-fashioned when it comes to dating, so it’s definitely a quest to find a respectful, sweet, thoughtful, traditional partner,” he said.
The blonde beauty told FEMAIL that dating is going “well” and she’s been on some “bad dates”
The conversation caught the attention of more than 583,000 people on TikTok and ignited a debate in the comments.
The conversation caught the attention of more than 583,000 people and sparked a debate in the comments.
Many argued that it is “wrong” to judge so quickly, while other men saw no problem with the texts.
‘I just think it’s ridiculous that we’re sitting here criticizing this simple but nice text. Would you prefer exclamation points and emojis? As if they were adults,” one wrote.
“For someone who turns 36 on Friday and hates texting, be patient,” another man advised.
‘May I ask what I should say? Because I definitely say the same thing. I’m 35 years old,’ one reflected.
“Coming from someone who is 40 years old, it’s because he’s 35,” another confirmed.
But one more added: ‘No, this is bad. I’m 35 years old and my text game is elite.’
Hundreds of women took Elizabeth’s side, many of whom had similar dating experiences.
‘Too much chasing. Let him do that,” one wrote, another calling Elizabeth “too nice.”
“Work is never too crazy to hang out with,” noted a third.
Someone else said that “playing by ear” is “crazy.”
Others bluntly assumed that the man doesn’t like her.
‘He’s not interested and that’s fine! “You want to feel giddy and excited and this is not all,” one woman wrote.
Someone else said: ‘If he’s not setting up a second date it’s simple, he’s not interested in you, and that’s fine, move on girl.’
When asked what she thinks of the debate, Elizabeth said she agrees that the text “wasn’t that bad.”
‘It was a light-hearted video to joke about my reaction to this guy’s release date text. I felt like he started and ended the conversation at the same time. That’s all! “I didn’t mean to offend anyone,” he said.