A bride-to-be has been called “tacky” and “rude” for planning to ask guests to pay for food at her wedding.
The woman sought advice on a popular Facebook group and posted a photo of the sample invitation before the big day.
In addition to RSVPing, guests were asked to clarify whether they were going to eat and, if so, to select their preferred meal.
The price of each meal was also included: $20 for roast chicken with rice, mashed potatoes and green beans and $25 for a salmon alternative.
‘We invite you to eat with us, but we ask that you pay for it yourself. Please select which food you prefer,’ the invitation said.
The RSVP invitation example said: ‘We invite you to dine with us, but we ask that you make your own payment. Please select which food you prefer’
“My wedding venue requires that I purchase food through them for the reception, but I’m told that sometimes people choose this option,” the woman wrote on Facebook.
‘Anyway, nothing about my reception is very typical, so I wonder how crazy or rude or profitable/smart.’
“The planner gave me this as an example of how to present it to the guests.”
But when the post was quickly criticized by others, the bride clarified that the event was more of a “fun dinner” than a “wedding,” as she and her partner had already legally married five months earlier.
‘In the end I will do what I want BUT I did not choose this option. “It was just a suggestion from the place that I was curious about what others thought,” he added.
‘This is for the reception. I’m definitely not going to ask for money or gifts and when they come to the reception we will have been married for five months.
‘There is also the option of increasing the venue fee and NOT offering food, which we may do.
‘We have financed everything necessary, including the DJ, activities (DJ booth, props, lighting, decoration, etc.). It’s definitely more of a fun dinner than something formal.
The bride was criticized for considering asking guests to pay for food at her wedding (file image)
The post was shared on another wedding-shaming Facebook group and was criticized by dozens.
‘Oh hell no! This is completely in bad taste!’ one wrote, another said: ‘So she asks if she’s rude and then she gets offended when people say she’s rude?’
‘I’m a veteran professional planner and would NEVER suggest this!’ said another.
Someone else wrote: ‘I’m especially shaming the venue for suggesting that people often pawn the cost of dinner on their guests. Encourage rude behavior.’
One more added: ‘If I received this invitation I would select “decline with” and cross out “regret” and write “pleasure.” There would be no regrets about missing this. I’d rather spend the money and treat myself to a nice dinner of my choice.
‘Fun dinner without food?’ another questioned.