A woman has revealed that her stepsister has not invited her to her wedding because she is ‘overweight’.
Turning to the British platform for parents Moms in networkThe woman explained that the wedding was going to be “very Instagrammable”, admitting that it does not “fit” with the aesthetic.
She revealed that she had “assumed” she would be invited to the destination wedding and that she “had money set aside” and was “looking forward to a few days away.”
The mother-of-two asked if it was “irrational” to feel “sad and angry” about not being invited to her brother’s wedding.
Many were quick to comment with their own thoughts, with some saying her stepbrother sounds “shallow,” but others suggesting that perhaps the bride-to-be just doesn’t like him.
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her stepsister has not invited her to her wedding because she is “overweight” (file image)
The charge Lee: ‘I’m upset that we weren’t invited to the wedding. My stepsister is getting married in August, the invitations were sent out a few weeks ago and it was made clear that my husband and I are not invited. I asked my mother about this and she confirmed it, she said she had asked my stepfather about it and he just said he didn’t want to get involved.
‘Mom and him got together when the kids were older teens or young adults, so the step-siblings never lived together, but we always got along. We all live in different cities and even countries, but we get together for Christmas, etc.
She continued: ‘The wedding is abroad and without kids (we have some children) but one of the other step-siblings got married last year and there were no kids and we went and had a great time, we didn’t have any problems with that.
‘It’s also become clear that it’s going to be a very Instagrammable wedding and we just don’t fit in – all of her friends are glamorous and we’re ugly and overweight.
‘They have invited relatives of parents, stepfathers, brothers and sisters and their partners and about 40 friends according to my mother, but we have not made it to the meeting.
‘I know the general attitude on Mumsnet is that people can invite whoever they want to their wedding, but am I irrational for feeling sad and angry about not being invited?’
People suggested the snub was “disgusting” and assured the woman she has a right to be angry.
On the British parenting platform, the woman explained that the wedding was going to be “very Instagrammable” and admitted that it does not “fit” with the aesthetic.
One person wrote: “Wow! This is pretty low. I think if someone is having a bad streak, weddings seem to prolong it. I’d be sad too.”
Another said: “It seems like it’s more about style than substance and they can’t see what’s more important – friends and family, rather than photogenic acquaintances.”
“If you have some money saved up, put something nice aside for your own family. I might send them a card, because that’s how I am, but I wouldn’t give them a gift.”
Someone else wrote: “You’re not wrong to feel that way. They don’t want you there and that hurts. Don’t send a gift or a card. Don’t even ask anything about it.”
A fourth said: “Yeah, that’s bullshit. Be polite and distant from now on. You can’t do anything about it, but it’s natural to feel hurt.”
The poster later added: “Thank you all for letting me know I’m not unreasonable. To my embarrassment I had assumed I would be invited and I had money saved up and was looking forward to a few days away as it’s in a country I love. Childcare wouldn’t have been an issue. I’ll try and book something else to do with the kids.”
Meanwhile, others suggested that he should not take it so seriously and jump to conclusions.
People suggested the snub was “disgusting” and assured the woman she has a right to be upset.
Meanwhile, others suggested that one should not take it so seriously and jump to conclusions.
She revealed that she had “assumed” she would be invited and that she “had money set aside” and was “looking forward to a few days away.”
One person said: ‘I think you’re a bit harsh in jumping to the conclusion that you’re not ‘Instagram friendly’ enough. It’s a wedding abroad with no kids and you have kids – they may have thought it was too much of a hassle.
‘It’s also very common for people to prioritize their friends. That doesn’t mean they don’t like you.
‘You two got married and left before your respective parents got together. You are step-siblings in name only, rather than having a shared family bond.’
Another said: “Have you been told that your style didn’t fit their wedding or the wedding photos? If not, it’s a huge assumption to think that you weren’t invited because you’re overweight or unfashionable.”
‘I’m betting you weren’t invited because you don’t have a direct relationship with them. You may have been to the same parties when your stepdad is around, but if you don’t see them at all when he’s not around, you’re just acquaintances and not close enough for the smaller groups that destination weddings typically have.’
Someone else said: “I wouldn’t be too offended by this since it’s a small wedding. Also, you don’t know if she limited her side of the family to exclude in-laws to avoid inviting anyone from her side. Also, not everyone sees in-laws on the same level of “family” as blood relatives.”
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