A woman has revealed her stress after a neighbor complained about her sick nine-month-old daughter crying.
Coming to the British platform for parents MomsnetThe anonymous woman explained that the neighbor recently knocked on her door disgruntled, saying that his sleep is suffering because of the noise.
The baby had previously been admitted to the hospital with a high fever, which was later diagnosed as a viral infection, and had been crying all night.
The “exhausted” mother said she is “personally shocked” because the neighbor has complained and asked if she is being “unfair.”
Many took to the comments to show support for the new mother, with some saying their neighbor sounds like a ‘bully.’
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her childless neighbor was complaining because her sick nine-month-old daughter wouldn’t stop crying (file image)
The post read: ‘Looking for a little advice. I have a 9 month old girl who was born with Strep B. She was very unwell at birth and she spent a week in the ICU. We were very lucky that she made a full recovery and fortunately the infection does not have any lasting effects.
‘However, since he started nursery 3 months ago, he has been constantly unwell. She has had all the colds, coughs and runny nose and hasn’t slept well at night.
She continued: ‘This last week my little one went to the doctor twice and was admitted to hospital with an extremely high fever which we now know is a viral infection. Seeing her so bad is heartbreaking and we as parents are doing the best we can.
‘Which brings me to what other moms think next. My neighbor knocked on my door this morning, for reference they don’t have children so they don’t understand.
‘However, after being up every hour of the night with my poor baby who continues to have temperatures of 39+, I am already emotional and exhausted. He proceeds to complain that she cries and keeps him and his wife awake.
“Then he told me to get support and now I feel like the worst mother in the world because my poor baby cries at night.
‘I admit she has been crying a lot, however I am doing everything in my power to help her, she has started sleeping with me again so I can get to her as soon as I hear her murmuring. I am personally shocked, as I would never complain about a neighbor’s crying baby. But I’d like to know what other mums think and if I’m being unfair!’
People took to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with some saying he’s a “miserable prick.”
On the British parenting platform Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained that the neighbor recently knocked on her door unhappy because she can’t sleep.
Many took to the comments to show support for the new mother, with some saying their neighbor sounds like a ‘bully.’
The mother thanked everyone for their kind comments and said they were reassuring.
One person said: ‘What does he expect you to do? He’s a stupid bully, he should be sorry for not being a big I-am. She would have looked at him, raised an eyebrow, and closed the door.
‘Be very grateful that you are not him and move on with your life. His baby will get better, he’ll probably always be a jerk.
Another said: “I don’t think anyone likes being woken up for any reason, but you can’t stop a baby from crying because she’s sick; it’s not like yours is leaving her lying there crying and not calming her down.” You must be tired and exhausted too and you’re not the worst mom, just a tired one!
‘We’ve all been there when our babies are sick, unfortunately your neighbors haven’t and they clearly don’t understand or care and would rather make you feel bad. There isn’t much advice to give you, but I hope your baby feels much better soon and that you get some rest.
Someone else said: ‘What does he and other people in the post think you’re supposed to do, soften her up, gag her????
‘Fff, he’s 9 months old, and if you’ve had children, you’ll understand and understand that it’s not an easy time at the best of times, especially when they’re unwell and their only way of communicating is by crying. Honestly, this makes my blood boil, because it’s not like your music blaring at all hours of the night, it’s a fucking baby crying because he’s sick.’
‘Ignore him, he sounds like a miserable git, keep doing what you’re doing. Stay strong and I hope the baby gets better soon.”
The mother added: ‘I was so shocked that she even had the audacity to knock on the door and complain to me, especially after I was left standing there with tears streaming down my face completely exhausted! I understand it must be difficult, but it is also difficult for me and your father. Thank you so much for making me see that I’m not going completely crazy and I’m right!’
Meanwhile, others thought perhaps the neighbor was trying to be nice when he mentioned that she might “need support.”
Meanwhile, others thought perhaps the neighbor was trying to be nice when he mentioned that she might “need support.”
One person said: ‘Could he think you’re just letting the baby cry in the crib like some mothers who struggle with bonding etc do, and wanted to support that?’
‘Depending on the way she said it, explain and reassure her that you and the baby are fine and that the baby has been to the doctor when she was unwell and that you are holding her when she cries, or if she just seemed angry and venting, let him and If he brings it up again, tell him that you are obviously trying to comfort her, but sick babies cry, but you understand that he has no experience with babies.
Another said: ‘Be understanding. They are also sleep deprived. They have the right to a good night’s sleep in their own home.
‘You can’t help having a bad baby. Maybe they were being helpful by suggesting that you need support… and you do! A crying baby is very difficult when you need to sleep. Can a parent help?
Maybe go with a bottle of and some earplugs. Say that she is very bad and that you are trying very hard. You haven’t slept either, so you understand how exhausted they are.
Meanwhile, another said: ‘I understand why you’re upset and there’s not much you can do about it. Babies will cry and there’s not much you can do about it. I understand that you were upset with how he handled things, but I don’t think anyone is particularly to blame. Do you think you could have handled this a little better? Maybe show a card and a bottle of wine to say sorry for the noise and that you appreciate them getting naked with you?
