A new mother asked people online for advice as she admitted her husband is not the father she thought he would be.
The unnamed mother, who gave birth to a baby 10 weeks ago, confessed that she had begun to “resent” her husband, who she has been with for eight years, due to his lack of parental care.
She took to Reddit to reveal that she felt “alone” because she was doing all the work, adding that she wished her partner would “act like a real mother.”
In a thread titled ‘Parenting‘, the new mother opened up about the difficulties of being a single parent and revealed that her husband doesn’t even prepare food for her when he prepares dinner himself.
The mother of one asked people for advice and shared that she was frustrated with the way her life had turned out.
A new mother has asked people for advice online while admitting her husband is not the father she thought he would be (file image)
She captioned the post: “My husband is not the father I thought he would be.”
The mother revealed that she and her husband, whom she did not name, have been together for eight years but married for one.
And although in the past she always felt like household chores were divided equally, she noticed that her husband’s personality changed after they welcomed their baby.
She revealed: “We had a baby 10 weeks ago and his colors have really shown since then. “His only child syndrome has really shined especially.
‘When he’s home, I have to ask him to give me a shower, ask him to hold the baby, ask him to change the diaper, ask, ask. And then when he does what I ask, he acts like I’m a burden.
“Then when I do things like shower, all I hear is our baby crying and when I go over to check on him, he’s on the phone while the baby cries in the bouncer. And as soon as I come back, he gives me the baby.
The mother further explained that her spouse did not even take her into account when preparing the food.
She revealed that if her husband prepared or picked up dinner, she would only earn enough for him.
She took to Reddit to reveal that she felt “alone” because she was doing all the work, adding that she wished her partner would “act like a real mother.”
‘He also eats all our food. If I place a grocery pickup order, all the food will be gone in three days. He will gather food for himself or prepare it for himself and not for me.
‘I’m breastfeeding and because I’m constantly holding, feeding, rocking and loving our baby, I don’t have much time to get food or hydrate.
‘I just wish he would. I wish he would act like a real father. Never in a million years did I think it would be like this.
‘He goes to the gym every day before work for 10 hours. “So she only gets to see her son for a good 30 minutes, but she still doesn’t pick him up or anything like that,” he added.
The mother admitted that she felt extremely “lonely” and began to “resent” her spouse.
At the end of the post, she said: ‘I feel so alone. I’m starting to resent him. I can’t stand to hear about his life outside this house. I’m drowning and he has no idea what I’m sacrificing every day. I love our baby so much, but I wonder if I should have ever had him with my husband. This is not what I signed up for.
People across the web flocked to the comments section and offered the new mom a wave of advice.
‘What should I do? I feel like I’ve expressed my frustrations but nothing changes. I know I can’t leave him, but I also don’t want anything to do with him currently. I’m so lost.’
People across the web flocked to the comments section and offered the new mom a wave of advice.
One user said: ‘I would tell him that directly. “You’re not the father I thought you’d be and your behavior makes me resent you.” Then you yourself decide how much and for how long you are going to put up with this. ‘
Someone else added: “It’s hard when reality doesn’t match expectations.” Have you talked honestly about how you feel? Sometimes, kids just need a push to take a step forward. Communication could help close that gap.”
‘The time to be direct is now. Find out if he is willing to change and make an effort; “If not, you’d literally be better off alone,” another user added.
‘You can absolutely leave. You can go out whenever you want,’ someone else commented.
‘Drop the dead weight. He is a male child. Honestly, a husband and father,” one person wrote.
