A wife is furious because her husband stopped cleaning immediately after they got married, and now she wants a divorce.
The couple, who have been together for four years, had never had any problems with cleaning and each did their fair share of the chores.
“Everything changed after marriage and I couldn’t tell you why, could I?”‘Suddenly he became a slacker… I’m on the verge of collapse,’ the wife wrote on Reddit.
‘I stopped doing all the housework in protest a month after we got married and now live in complete and utter filth.
“I’m rarely home because of the mess. I live part-time with my sister right now and he doesn’t even care. I’ve had multiple breakdowns this month, I’m completely over it.”
The wife explained that it was not simply a case of clutter, but rather wet food in the sink, bugs, takeout boxes everywhere, trash that was not taken out, puddles, crumbs, dirty laundry and piles of dishes stacked up.
“A few hours ago I told him that if he didn’t clean tonight I would divorce him tomorrow. He told me that I was an idiot and that cleaning was no longer his job,” she said.
“I almost burst a blood vessel. We hadn’t decided.”
Wife files for divorce after husband refused to do cleaning as soon as they got married
While her mother-in-law urged her not to throw away the marriage, thousands of people unanimously criticized the husband’s behavior and told the American woman that it was definitely time to leave him.
People couldn’t decide which was worse, the mess itself or the husband’s attitude.
“The behaviour is completely unacceptable. It’s one thing to have different standards of cleanliness, but it’s quite another to actively refuse to contribute to a shared living space. The level of filth you’re describing is unsanitary and disrespectful,” one woman said.
“The part where he says he doesn’t have to clean anymore because he’s married is especially annoying. He really believes it and will never change,” another said.
“He didn’t tell me and I wanted to punch him in the jaw,” added another.
People were outraged by the husband’s actions, saying that men who often want a traditional wife to do all the work of cooking, cleaning and raising children often also expect her to hold down a job.
“They want a traditional housewife/stay-at-home mother but with the salary of a modern wife,” said one woman.
“I come from a much more traditional culture than the American one and these guys would have a heart attack if they knew what was expected of them as traditional husbands,” one man added.
Some thought it was not unusual for some men to change their habits after marriage.
“A lot of times people hide who they really are until they get married, and then the mask falls off. He cheated on you and I’m sorry that happened,” one man wrote.
“My ex-husband also changed immediately after we got married. I wasted years trying to work things out. Run now if you can,” one woman advised.
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