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Just as many couples don’t bother trying to have simultaneous orgasms, multiple orgasms don’t appeal to everyone either.
Not everyone wants or has time for the long, endless sex session that is often necessary to produce them.
But even if you don’t think multiple pregnancies are for you, doing the following will result in better orgasm quality, and who doesn’t want more of that?
Here goes…
1. How you breathe is important
Some experts say that holding your breath during orgasm increases the sensation, others say that if you deprive the brain of oxygen, it forces the blood that supplies oxygen to flow toward it and away from your genitals. (Not good: you need a lot of blood in your genitals to achieve maximum sensation.)
Continuing to breathe deeply during orgasm is recommended by spiritual sex devotees, who claim it means you’re more likely to be able to have a second.
While even more experts say that if you want to feel your orgasm over a wider area, start with regular deep breaths and then start panting just before you orgasm. Who is right? It’s all about what works for you, so try them all.
Some experts say that holding your breath during orgasm increases the sensation, others say that if you deprive the brain of oxygen, it forces the blood that supplies oxygen to flow toward it and away from your genitals. (Not good: you need a lot of blood in your genitals to achieve maximum sensation.) Stock image used.
2. Know your anatomy
Most orgasms follow a similar pattern. But they vary enough between individuals to ensure that we all have our own “orgasm fingerprint.”
One theory about the female orgasm is that there are two different nerves responsible for the two different “basic” orgasms (clitoris and frontal wall).
The pudendal nerve goes to the clitoris and the pelvic nerve goes to the vagina and uterus.
Because the pudendal has more nerve endings, this could be the reason why women have more clitoral orgasms than vaginal ones.
The two nerves overlap in the spinal cord, which may explain why women can have “combined” orgasms (clitoris and frontal wall simultaneously).
3. Take control of what you can
Several factors seem to influence whether women have multiple, vaginal orgasms: the strength of their PC muscles (more on this later), the sensitivity of their front vaginal wall (the part under their belly), and the motivation to keep trying different ones. stimulations and orgasms. triggers.
You have control over most of these factors and one other crucial one.
The more ways you have to reach orgasm (through masturbation, oral, wall-to-head, etc.), the more likely you are to have multiple orgasms.
Not everyone wants or has time for the long, drawn-out sex session that is often necessary to produce them, says Tracey Cox (pictured).
If you have a (bad) habit of having most of your orgasms through the same medium (your partner’s tongue, fingers, or a vibrator), start changing it.
Stop having orgasms the usual way and just use a different technique. It takes time to retrain your body, but it will happen.
4. Get to training
You know what’s coming. Yes, they are ‘kegels’. An exercise routine for the muscles inside the vagina.
The PC muscle supports the pelvic floor and produces “spasms” during orgasm.
Like the rest of your body, if it’s toned and fit, it works better: pumping even more blood to the pelvis (great for arousal) and producing stronger contractions (which produce longer, more intense orgasms).
Yes, it’s just another thing to add to your “to do” list, but fortunately, the exercises last just a few minutes and you can do them anywhere.
Simply squeeze the muscle you use to hold in urine, hold for two seconds, and then release. Do this 20 times, three times a day.
5. Practice ‘peaking’ techniques
Peaking involves reaching almost the point of orgasm, waiting for the arousal to subside, and then going back up.
This trains you to stay in a high state of arousal, following a “wave” orgasm pattern, rather than one that starts from the bottom and steadily rises.
Not only does this optimize the release of endorphins, which feel amazing, but it also teaches your body to stay in a virtually permanent orgasmic pleasure zone, capable of reaching orgasm again and again.
6. Take your time
The longer the action, the stronger the reaction.
There is good evidence that the strength of your orgasm depends on the duration of foreplay and other erotic stimuli involved.
While most of us can masturbate to orgasm in a few minutes (especially when using a vibrator), it feels more satisfying during partnered sex when you’ve been in the “plateau” stage (the stage after arousal). and before orgasm) before dumping. .
There is good evidence that the strength of your orgasm depends on the duration of foreplay and other erotic stimuli involved. Stock image used
7. Deliberately develop orgasm triggers
The more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the easier it becomes.
Curling your lips upward lets the brain know you’re happy, which triggers the release of serotonin, a hormone that makes you feel happy as well as look happy. The more signals of impending orgasm your brain can recognize, the easier it will trigger the orgasmic response.
Focus on what you do naturally as you approach orgasm and then exaggerate. If you breathe harder and faster, breathe even harder the next time you’re about to climax. If you notice yourself tensing your toes and tilting your head back, do it.
It gets to the point where your brain thinks ‘Aha! Deep, heavy breathing combined with flexing your toes means you are about to orgasm. Better then get to work and make it happen!’
Do this and the orgasm will become spontaneous and effortless.
8. Use different stimulation for each orgasm
After your first orgasm, your body may become temporarily desensitized to the form of stimulation you are using. If you have your first sexual intercourse, you are more likely to have another one through oral sex than through more penetrative sex because you are stimulating a different area.
A third could be achieved by masturbating; will be the hardest to achieve, so call the expert (you).
Combining different types of stimulation is usually the key to causing multiple orgasms. Use a vibrator together with your partner’s fingers; Add fingers to tongue stimulation. Anything that adds an extra erotic jolt can work.
Visit traceycox.com for information about Tracey’s podcast (SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey), her range of products (sold through Lovehoney) and practical information on sex and relationships.