A young woman has been slammed as an “authoritarian red flag” after revealing her list of instructions on how she wants her boyfriend to propose to her.
She shared a document titled ‘Proposal’ with several instructions, including a request that he propose to her privately but while they are traveling.
“You know I hate being in front of a lot of people, definitely not in a public space,” he said. online.
She also demanded an after-party with her family and friends, saying she wanted to have a small celebration with just the two of them if they were on vacation when it happened.
The list included hiring a photographer and making sure he was “hidden” for the big moment.
“For the speech, say something nice and from the heart,” she said. “If you write it down, it will be helpful because even if you’re nervous, you’ll know what to say and I can save it forever.”
The woman also selected a proposal planner from Instagram that she recommends.
Hundreds of people criticized her list and called her a “horrible” bride for waiting so long.
“I hope she dumps you. No one deserves this kind of micromanagement in a relationship. I can’t even imagine your idea of what a ‘perfect’ wedding would be like,” one said.
A young woman has been slammed as an “authoritarian red flag” after revealing her list of instructions on how she wants her boyfriend to propose to her.
“If you have to control how your boyfriend proposes to you, you don’t trust him, which means you don’t love him and therefore you shouldn’t marry him,” another added.
“This is so unromantic and scary. He deserves better,” one woman wrote.
“That’s fine, but would it feel like it came from the heart to literally give instructions on a silver platter?” one asked.
Another said: “Some women want to get married. Others just want to get married. This is the second option.”
But some thought it was “sweet” that the woman was clear about her expectations.
“Some girls are just planners and date or marry partners who aren’t planners,” said one. “I’m a planner and my boyfriend doesn’t like to plan things unless he’s 100 percent sure I’ll like it (and even then, he doubts himself). When the time comes, I’d probably sneak a list of things I like or drop hints.”
“This is great,” one woman said. “My boyfriend needs all the help he can get.”
“It’s so sweet, not demanding at all and just what would make her perfect,” said another. “It’s not even detailed and just left up to the (groom).”
“I created an entire PowerPoint presentation about my ring preference and proposal,” one commenter revealed.