Nobody said it was easy.
A young woman named Sarah condemned the New York City dating scene in a viral TikTok, as she sobbed in frustration over having her peace “disturbed” by men coming in and out of her life.
“I want to talk about dating in New York, because it sucks,” Sarah began in the video, which she captioned, “Dating in New York is not for the weak.”
‘Every situation and situation I’ve been in has gone so far to the left. And I say, is it me? What did I do?’
Reflecting on her recent disappointments while dating, she felt at a loss as to what was causing her so much bad luck in love.
A young woman named Sarah took to TikTok to decry the dating scene in New York City, crying as she questioned why all the “situations” she’s been in haven’t turned out well.
‘I give a lot. I hate that I’m such a loving girl, even though she doesn’t really seem like it,” Sarah said, her brown eyes shining with tears.
‘I give a lot. I hate that I’m such a loving girl, even though she doesn’t really seem like it,” Sarah said, her brown eyes shining with tears.
“When I love, I love so much.”
However, each “situation” failed to develop into a more permanent and stable relationship, he said.
‘I’m over it. I don’t want to use dating apps anymore.
‘I’m done with dating.
‘Like before I met you, I was at peace. And then I met you, we went out and did the same thing.
‘It was so good and I was so happy and so comfortable and everything was great.
“And then he goes left and it’s like you just disturbed my peace.”
Thousands of people responded to the comments, many of them commiserating with Sarah, while others offered sympathy and generally sage advice.
‘Every time I try again and end up really finding a connection with someone, something ends up happening.
And I always think that I was the one who screwed up. And I say, huh.
‘I swear to God, at the rate this is going… I’m just giving up. I’ve finished. I give up.
‘I’m just going to accept the fact that I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life, because I’m never going to find my person.
‘Because every time I do, and every time I think I found someone, I didn’t, and they end up the same, they just end up leaving. And I say, “What happened?”
She admitted that she felt crying on camera was “very embarrassing” of her.
Because, first of all, I hate crying, especially in front of people, because I don’t want to show my weakness and vulnerability,” she said.
‘But at the same time, someone else has to relate to this. Because what the fuck, really?
He concluded that he was at home “trying to enjoy the holidays with my family” and that his stepfather had prepared him “a super strong drink.”
‘But if. How’s your Sunday? she added with a forced smile.
Hundreds of people took to the comments to assure Sarah that she wasn’t the only one feeling heartbroken about men and their behavior in the dating game.
‘Megan Fox once said “develop a hobby, men will burn you out.” “Honestly, I don’t date anyone anymore because (because) men these days are crazy,” one offered.
‘I feel you. Dating in New York is unfortunate + I think people have too many options and see people as replaceable, so it’s a rapid, non-stop cycle of ups and downs, a second reasoned.
“Oh to collectively have the same experience,” chimed in a third.
“I feel like it’s not just New York, I think it’s everywhere, it’s a shame,” echoed a fourth.
And, as a fifth wisely advised: ‘Sometimes we have to train that lover girl in us that not everyone deserves that treatment, protect your heart darling, send lots of love.’
