Family and friends of Australian-born Bianca Censori, the wife of Kanye West, are reportedly concerned for her well-being. From the photographs and stories I’ve seen online, I can’t say I blame them.
Censori, 29, an architect with a master’s degree from the University of Melbourne, and West, 46, the rapper ex-husband of reality TV star Kim Kardashian, secretly married in December 2022 and have sparked controversy ever since polemic.
Censori was seen in increasingly risky and compromising situations, from performing a sex act on her husband in Venice to wearing increasingly revealing clothing.
Additionally, West posted disturbing images of herself on her Instagram page for her 20 million followers to see. They include photos of his wife in fetish gear, performing domestic chores, all uploaded to a chorus of criticism.
Censori does not have a social media account – apparently banned by her husband, who says it is for his own protection.
Bianca Censori and Kanye West secretly married in December 2022 and have been causing controversy ever since… According to reports, he is the one who dictates what she wears, what she eats and when she can speak.
Censori has been seen in increasingly risky outfits, including this X-rated look in Paris recently where she wore no underwear with sheer bottoms and top.
According to reports, West dictates what his wife wears, what she can eat and when she can speak.
Of course, what we’re seeing is just a snapshot of a wedding, and for his part, West said he just wanted to show off his beautiful bride.
Yet his former girlfriend, Julia Fox, 34, who dated West for a month in 2022, made serious allegations in her memoir, Down The Drain, about someone she only calls “l ‘artist “.
She revealed that the “artist” attempted to control what she wore by sending her a wardrobe of clothes he had pre-approved. He also tried to persuade her to get breast implants.
As for Censori, photos of her before meeting West show a happy, smiling young woman partying with her friends in Melbourne, dressed in cocktail dresses, shorts and T-shirts.
By contrast, photos of her taken last month during Paris Fashion Week wearing a fur stole and sheer tights, with what appears to be no underwear underneath (a choice that could well land her charges for indecent exposure) seem alarming.
Even though Censori insists that she is comfortable in her own body, it is clear to her family and friends that something has changed.
Over the years, I have had a number of patients who were in coercive and controlling relationships – a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser adopted a pattern of manipulative behaviors within a relationship.
What is shocking to those on the outside is that the victim is often unaware of what is happening.
I’ve sat in front of people (mostly women, but men can be victims of coercive control too) and told them I was afraid they were being controlled, and they shook their heads in complete denial .
A woman was not allowed to see her family, have her own bank account and had to keep a tracker on her phone so her husband knew where she was at all times. She didn’t consider it shameful and scary behavior.
Censori doesn’t have a social media account – apparently banned by her husband, who claims it’s for his own protection
He had convinced her that it was because he cared about her so much and wanted to know that she was always safe.
The manipulator is often very clever in the way they take control – it is done gently at first and in small, subtle ways. They might suggest that one partner is not very good with their finances or is being scammed in some way, and that it would be better for them to take sole control of the money .
Maybe after an argument with their family, the controller will encourage someone to cut off contact, saying their family doesn’t deserve it.
This is usually expressed in terms of wanting to help the other person be happier. Little by little, the victim’s self-esteem is destroyed, their confidence eroded.
Sometimes it can happen so gradually that the person doesn’t realize it — until one day they wake up and realize they barely know themselves anymore.
As they are often deliberately distanced from their friends and loved ones, it is even more difficult to open their eyes to what is really happening.
But people can and do escape these types of toxic relationships, and the first step is always to recognize the signs that they might be being manipulated. Women’s Aid highlights ten key warning signs to look out for:
- Isolate yourself from friends and family;
- Deprive yourself of basic needs, such as food;
- Take control of aspects of your daily life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep;
- Monitor you via online communication tools or spyware;
- Deprive you of access to support services, such as medical services;
- Repeatedly belittling you, saying you are worthless;
- Humiliate, degrade or dehumanize you;
- Control your finances;
- Threaten or intimidate you.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. But if any of these bring up the relationship you’re in, then it could indicate coercive control, a recognized form of domestic violence. This is a crime and the law is on your side.
For more information, visit womensaid.org.uk or call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
Lawyer Paul Alexander, who died last week, spent more than 70 years confined to an iron lung after contracting polio as a child. His remarkable story puts most of us to shame, with our daily blame and complaints.
Paul Alexander died last week after spending more than 70 years confined to an iron lung after contracting polio as a child.
Meghan’s vindictive timing Perhaps it was just a coincidence that the Duchess of Sussex launched her new lifestyle brand just 45 minutes before Prince William delivered a moving speech at the 25th Diana Legacy Awards?
Perhaps it was another coincidence when, hours later, Meghan and Harry announced the winner of the $100,000 Archewell Civil Rights Prize. But I suspect they don’t do much by accident.
The Duchess of Sussex launched her new lifestyle brand just 45 minutes before Prince William delivered a moving speech at the 25th Diana Legacy Awards.
In this case, it seems cruel to try to steal the spotlight from Prince William in this way, especially when it comes to a celebration of his mother’s legacy.
This seems petty and bitter. I hoped the brothers would find a way to reconcile. But there can be no hope of healing as long as one party behaves like this.
For all the Sussexes’ talk about how “empathy and compassion are the building blocks of a better world,” it’s just hot air. It is not compassionate to try to upstage a family member, especially at a sensitive time. It’s mean and vindictive.
Lily Allen said last week that having children “totally ruined” her career because she chose to prioritize them over singing and acting projects. She insisted that “you can’t have it all.” I think she’s right.
But why should women feel torn between a career and a family, while men generally don’t? To me, this is where the real sexism lies. If having kids means you can’t have it all, that should apply to fathers as well as mothers.
Dr. Max prescribes… an ice bath A study from the University of Warwick showed that soaking in a cold bath can reduce inflammation in the body and promote good health.
Reducing inflammation is important because it may be linked to cardiovascular disease, diabetes and cancer, as well as depression and anxiety. Granted, it’s not as appealing as the idea of a hot bath, but maybe it’s worth a try?
A study found that soaking in a cold bath can reduce inflammation in the body and promote good health.
