A woman was left heartbroken after her boyfriend proposed to her with a ring that was the opposite of what she expected.
While the proposal was “perfect” and she was excited about the prospect of moving in together, she was immediately disappointed when she saw the sparkler he had chosen.
“I feel horrible about this and I’ve been crying with a ball of anxiety in my stomach because I feel like a bad person for this,” she confessed in a Reddit post.
When her partner asked her if she liked the ring, she panicked and lied.
“I know I shouldn’t have done it, but he seemed so happy and I didn’t want to hurt him,” the American woman explained.
‘Do I just accept it and learn to love the ring, or do I tell him?
‘If so, how can I talk about it in the kindest, most respectful way possible? I’m worried about hurting his feelings… he’s the only person I can imagine spending my life with.’
Many supported her and said that she couldn’t lie about the ring forever and urged her to tell her future husband the truth.
A woman was left heartbroken after her boyfriend proposed to her with a ring that was the opposite of what she expected.
“You should start off by saying that you’re so excited to spend the rest of your life with him… and then go on to say that you’ve been plagued by anxiety and guilt over not really liking your ring, but that doesn’t affect how happy the engagement has made you,” one suggested.
“This is the healthiest thing you can do. Well done!” another agreed.
A wife said she never said she didn’t like her engagement ring and still hides the truth from her husband.
“I never stopped wishing I had gotten the right ring,” she said.
Others agreed that while difficult conversions suck, marriage is built on honesty.
Others said that most jewelers had return windows for engagement rings and that men generally weren’t as sensitive when their fiancées didn’t like the style they’d chosen.
“I honestly think it would be a miracle if another person was psychic enough to be able to pick out a piece of jewelry that they would be happy to wear every day of their life,” one woman reasoned.
Some encouraged her to have that difficult talk as soon as possible, while others wished her the best of luck.
“Any man worth marrying would want you to love your ring and wouldn’t hesitate to change it. Just tell him and you might be pleasantly surprised,” said one woman.
One self-described “old school” wife strongly disagreed with asking the man for another ring, saying she came from an era when women didn’t pick out their own.
“I say accept the ring and all the thought behind it,” he said.
Another did not take such a kind attitude to the woman’s dilemma.
“The superficiality of today’s engagements and marriages is astonishing,” he said.
“Man, it just sickens me that a material object is stopping that amazing, life-changing moment from happening. How disgusting!”
This isn’t the first time a bride-to-be has turned to Reddit for advice after receiving an engagement ring that didn’t meet her wishes.
An American woman recently shared her disappointment after discovering that her engagement ring contained a lab-grown diamond.
While she loved the ring’s “beautiful” design, she couldn’t shake the feeling that she had gotten “second place” because it didn’t have a natural diamond.
She was unanimously criticized online for complaining about the ethical flare.
“I demand that my diamonds be mineable,” said one woman.
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