It turns out that putting off sex until you find “the one” could lead to long-term sexual dysfunction.
Actress Rebel Wilson has revealed that she didn’t have sex for the first time until she was 35, which is twice the age at which the average American loses her virginity: 17 years old.
Seth Eisenberg, chief executive of the PAIRS Foundation, a non-profit organization that focuses on fostering healthy relationships, told DailyMail.com that people who lose their virginity later in life may have greater difficulty becoming aroused and experiencing orgasms. once they become sexually active.
Studies have shown that waiting too long to perform the action can lead to pent-up frustration, weak muscles, and performance anxiety, leading to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or inability to reach orgasm.
Actress Rebel Wilson has revealed that she didn’t have sex for the first time until she was 35, which is twice the age at which the average American loses her virginity: 17 years old.
Rebel shared the intimate details of her sex life in her new memoir, Rebel Rising, in the hope it will help young people because “not everyone has to lose their virginity as a teenager.”
The 44-year-old man said People Magazine: ‘People can wait until they’re ready or wait until they’re a little more mature.
‘And I think that could be a positive message. “Obviously you don’t have to wait until you’re thirty like me, but you shouldn’t feel pressure when you’re young,” Rebel added.
Experts have long highlighted the benefits of a healthy sex life, including boosting the immune system and heart health, lowering blood pressure, strengthening muscles, improving sleep, and even extending a person’s life expectancy.
By abstaining from sex for long periods (whether by remaining a virgin or going through a dry spell), studies have found that thinking slows, the immune system worsens, pelvic muscles and bladder control weaken. , stress and frustration increase, pain tolerance plummets, and your sleep is disrupted.
One of the first studies 2007 study to examine how age of virginity loss predicts future outcomes found that men who have sex for the first time between the ages of 21 and 23 tend to have more difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection and experiencing an orgasm.
Men who had sex for the first time when they were 20 years old had a 59 percent higher risk of experiencing sexual arousal problems than men who had sex at age 17.
They also had a 46 percent higher risk of erectile problems and a 74 percent higher risk of not being able to reach an orgasm.
Rebel Wilson claims Sacha Baron Cohen told her to ‘stick a finger up his butt’ while they were filming the 2016 film The Brothers Grimsby together.
Stephanie Manes, a couples therapist, told DailyMail.com that the pressure to perform after waiting all those years can lead to mood-killing anxiety.
She said: “Anxiety is a big arousal killer.”
‘It’s quite common for men to have trouble maintaining an erection or having an orgasm the first time they have sex with a new partner. There can be a lot of pressure to please the woman and prove that she can be a good lover.
“Women have their own version of that: They are totally self-conscious or worried because they can barely feel anything happening in their bodies.”
And for people who wait to get into bed after getting married, the stress is exacerbated, Manes said: “All this pressure is even greater when the man or woman you’re having sex with is now your wife.”
Aside from the physical, losing your virginity later in life can affect you mentally and emotionally. It can lead to poor social skills and stunted emotions, two key things to good sex.
A seperation study of 2016 found that people rated virgins as less attractive than sexually experienced people.
Furthermore, the virgins themselves said that the ‘late ones’ were less attractive.
The stigma associated with older virgins led researchers to conclude that abstaining from sex can have negative relationship outcomes.
While losing your virginity at an older age than most can cause physical and mental problems, researchers in the 2007 study also found that people who lose their virginity at a young age, defined as age 14, also face risks.
The researchers said: “Both early and late onset were associated with sexual problems such as arousal and orgasm problems, mainly among men.”
Losing one’s virginity at a young age was associated with a greater number of sexual partners, a greater likelihood of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, and riskier sexual behavior.
However, it seems that more Americans are waiting to get into bed and people are having less sex overall.
In 2021, investigation from Rutgers University in New Jersey showed that casual sex has steadily declined in recent years, a trend that was present even before the Covid pandemic.
And people are marrying later in life, with the average age rising from 24 in 1990 to 30 in 2022. As people wait to settle down, experts say they may find themselves entering into relationships at an older age and, Therefore, they could be delaying the first moment. -time of sexual encounters.