Sexual technology has They have come a long way in the last 10 years, not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness, but also in terms of technology. Gone are the days of clunky pink plastic rabbit vibrators and sex toys that looked like knockoff action figures. Today’s toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and some of the world’s top sex experts. They feature ultra-premium medical-grade silicone, robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors, all designed to help you have a good time.
There’s never a bad time to invest in a little extra self-care. These are the best sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There is something here for everyone, all genders and all bodies. The language of these products is not always gender inclusive, but we approach testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing them with a variety of different genitals, bodies, and partners.
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Updated May 2024: We added the Coconu Wave and Le Wand vibrators.
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What toys are for my body?
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that is reductionist and inaccurate, and contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s not helpful and I have a lot of feelings about it. We choose to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones, and there are shape more than just P and V.
He vulva It is the outer part of the vagina. Includes the labia majora, labia minorathe urethra and clitoris. The clitoris is the center of the erogenous nerves of the vulva and is much larger than just the outer portion. Its internal structures extend to both sides of the vagina, which is where you will find the G point—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
He phallus This is what is commonly known as the axis of the penis, and includes a couple of erogenous zones. He glans is the upper part of the phallus, generally called the “head”, and the bridle It is a thin strip of connective tissue at the bottom of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to specific stimulation. Last but not least, the year It’s, well… it’s the asshole. He straight It is the interior portion that joins the anus. Both areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation.
For people born with a phallus, there is an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate either point P. It is a walnut-sized gland that lives between the internal structures of the penis and rectum, and can be accessed by toys that curve toward the front of the body.