A woman has revealed she was angry at her husband for checking her phone when he was supposed to be looking after their children.
Go to the British parental platform Mamannetthe wife revealed she was “very pregnant and extremely hormonal” so her husband gets up at 5 a.m. with their two young children, aged one and three, to give her a few extra hours of rest.
However, she is not happy that he watches YouTube videos for two hours in the morning when he is supposed to be a “parent”, because it does not set “the best example” because children do not have the right to spend time in front of a screen in the morning. .
The woman explained that if she knew this was happening, she would prefer to get up at 5 a.m. herself and asked others if she was overreacting.
People rushed to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with many saying the mother was wrong and seemed “bossy”.
A woman revealed on Mumsnet she was angry at her husband for checking her phone when he was supposed to be looking after their children (stock image)
The message read: “I’m heavily pregnant and extremely hormonal so I want to check I’m not overreacting…DH (dear husband) has been up early with our young children throughout my pregnancy. Amazing – what a great father. It’s very helpful for me to have an extra 1-2 hours in bed. RIGHT?
“Except I just found out that day after day, from 5 a.m. to 7 a.m., he just watches YouTube videos on his phone. And these are short videos, 2-3 minutes (for example about football, TV shows or movies).
“So it’s not something he has in the background (which I also wouldn’t find ideal as 1 and 3 year olds need supervision and attention and that doesn’t give the best example/they’re not allowed screen time in the morning) He just actively scrolled and watched stuff for hours. For months.
“I’m a stay-at-home mom and I have to say, this is just not parenting for me. I found out he was doing this for a window early in my pregnancy, I explained to him that I didn’t think it was right and that if he didn’t feel ready to get up I would prefer to do so myself/not do that. He said he understood/agreed. So I trusted him not to do it. And I discover that he always did it!
“I completely understand that some people have different bars for what they do/let their children do and I don’t judge for that, but AIBU thinks I should be able to trust my husband to do what we have agreed with our children.?! I feel stupid, I would have preferred to get up at 5 am.
“It also explains a lot – DS (dear son) having a bump etc. and him not knowing how it happened, or me sometimes waking up to hear DS communicating but not being able to hear my husband respond for several minutes.”
Opinions were divided, but many decided to side with the father, saying that she could not dictate to him how he spent those hours in the morning.
Speaking to the British parenting platform, the woman revealed she was “heavily pregnant and extremely hormonal.” So her husband gets up at 5 a.m. with their two young children, aged one and three, to give her a few extra hours of rest.
People rushed to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with many saying the mother was wrong and seemed “bossy”.
One person wrote: “Sorry, but it seems more like YOU accepted it and he just continued living a quiet life.” You seem a little bossy.
“I mean, as far as he’s checking how many minutes and what subject he’s watching? Come on, kids don’t burn the house down while he’s in the same room, for God’s sake.
“You probably wouldn’t like him telling you what you should do and how. In fact, the consensus here would be to tell him to fuck off if he came on here complaining about you watching YouTube instead of being glued to the kids every second of a two hour window. How much harm does this actually do?
Another said: “Think if I got up at 5am while DH stayed in bed for another 2 hours, I would be extremely annoyed if he started dictating what I should do with that time. Early risers at 5am are hell and still have about 12 hours left in the day to do productive things with/for them. Sorry OP but I think YABU (you’re being unreasonable) here.’
Someone else wrote: “I’m sorry, but at 5 a.m. I would also doze off with enough eyes to check for danger, but just that.” I’m an awesome parent a few hours later. But 5 a.m.? No.’
A fourth wrote: “Sorry but I’m thinking of YABU. I had two early risers. Whatever it takes to last until 7am is fair game and doesn’t count as normal parenting!’
However, some people took the mother’s side, saying they wouldn’t be happy about their partner being on the phone with the kids either.
However, some people took the mother’s side, saying they wouldn’t be happy about their partner being on the phone with the kids either.
One person wrote: “I completely agree with you. I feel sad when I notice parents ignoring their kids because they’re glued to their phones when they’re out and about and I think it must be even worse at home when they’re probably in front of a TV too.
“I’m sure my husband would be one of those parents if we weren’t together, because he doesn’t see the problem but follows my lead.
“I personally don’t use my phone in front of my baby and toddler except during nighttime feedings or if I get a phone call that I can’t answer during nap times. This sets a bad example and would also cause carnage when they were not actively parenting.
Another said: “I’m actually surprised that most of the answers seem to be this YABU, when I really don’t think you are.
“DCs (dear children) don’t need to be entertained all the time, but it’s also a shame when they look at their parents and are never recognized because their parent is glued to a phone.”
Someone else wrote: “I agree, it’s not okay for him to be glued to his phone all the time.” Looks like he’s addicted (like so many others). Yanbu.’
A fourth wrote: “I think Yanbu, as he showed, doesn’t react or notice accidents. So it really doesn’t work for him.
“It’s possible to glance at your phone every now and then and still pay attention to your children. That’s what I did at that age. I had to watch mine very closely at that age, but if I could sit down with a coffee I would read a book or similar. However, I read my Kindle, I don’t know how much better it is.