Hey married friends, stop getting in our way! Seriously, it’s driving us single women crazy.
On Thursday, my friend and I were cornered at the bar by a couple of old, thirsty, married men, obviously looking to have their egos stroked by two beautiful young women before they returned home to their wives. The problem: the pleasure was all his.
My friends and I headed to the pub after paying our respects to the Anzacs, intending to play twice and flip the coin to find some attractive single men to flirt with.
Unfortunately, the queues to get into the pubs in Paddington were huge, so one by one the girls went down in search of something better. With a friend on our feet, we finally made it to the packed bar and realized we were packed like sardines. Fortunately, not far from us a group of men our age appeared and they looked attractive!
We started looking at each other and it was a great start.
Jana Hocking shares her complaint with married men who approach her in bars
Jana was recently in a pub for Anzac Day when two married men ambushed her and a friend.
There were men yelling “heads” and “tails” at each other in macho caveman ways that made us laugh, we were happy… there was one tall, handsome one in particular, and they were having a good flirtation. party. Until…
I headed to the crowded bar to buy my friend and I a drink. I finally got to the front of the line and felt a tap on my shoulder. Two older men with wedding rings were trying to get my attention. They asked me if I could also order their drinks so they wouldn’t have to wait in line and in return they would pay for my drinks. Sure! I thought it was a great exchange of services.
So, I ordered four drinks, drank two, and thanked him before returning to my friend.
What I didn’t realize was that they were following me. Sigh.
As I pressed myself against the wall of the packed pub and gave my friend a drink, I discovered they were trying to join us and we had nowhere to go. For what seemed like an hour they talked to us. Not with us. Us. And since the bar was so full, we couldn’t escape them. What I thought was a kind act turned into a kidnapping.
As we nodded politely and gave them very brief answers, they proceeded to dominate the conversation, clearly loving having two younger women to make them feel alive. The problem was that their joy was not ours.
The guys we had been watching assumed we were now happily entertaining these older (married) guys and turned their attention elsewhere. Foolishness.
Jana has tried to politely reject their advances and give short answers, but the men persist.
Finally, my friend said she had to go to the bathroom and left to chat with the younger, single guys and asked them to save us.
Which, fortunately, they did, and we had a great afternoon flirting with men our age who weren’t thirsty old men who weren’t necessarily looking to cheat, but who wanted to give their egos a boost by talking to half-assed women. your age.
And that would be something to laugh at or be embarrassed about if it was the first time this had happened. But is not.
Why do married men seem more confident in a bar? Is it because the result doesn’t really matter?
They already have wives at home, so they can party like ridiculous peacocks, and if someone takes the bait, great. If not, they will sleep peacefully with their partner.
Is it because they desperately want to feel young and free again? To try to make sure they remain attractive to the opposite sex?
Jana questioned why married men feel so comfortable flirting with single women in bars
On another previous outing, I was with two friends at a CBD bar for after-work drinks when a clearly intoxicated man joined our table. He had a huge Rolex watch that was hard to miss and a shiny gold wedding ring.
He drawled to us that he was coming off a long lunch and asked us to join him and his companions at a table across the bar. One look in that direction and it was clear that they were all married men who had just enjoyed a drunken guys lunch.
We politely thanked him for the invitation and told him we could do it later. Keywords for: absolutely not.
For the next hour he proceeded to make rapid laps past our table, insisting each time that we join his group. Finally we left.
Now, gentlemen, I understand that you are probably going through a midlife crisis, but can you figure it out? Because every time you try to take up space with us singles, you’re filling a space that should be filled by single men. And it’s getting really annoying.
So go to therapy, or your wives, or your lovers. And let us singles make eyes with other singles in bars. Oh really.