Wife claims that most women TOLERATE sex as an “obligation” to prevent their partner from “straying” – but critics claim that her husband “shouldn’t do it right”
- Woman from the UK went to Mumsnet and asked if women “tolerate” sex
- Said many women have admitted that they prefer ‘a hug and a good book’
- Added to this, they see it as their ‘obligation’ and do so for fear that their partners will stray
A woman has claimed that many women tolerate sex to “keep their relationships” and consider it an “obligation” to prevent their partners from “straying.”
An anonymous woman from the UK contacted Mumsnet to explain that while she has no doubt that some people enjoy the physical side of their relationships, she has spoken to others who would rather just have a hug and a good book. “
She continued in the post: “But these women, in the absence of a better word, submit to their partner for fear that they will stray or see it as their obligation.”
But the responses divided the internet quickly – some agreed with the statement, while others argued that her opinion was “out of date.”
“I think I’ll fall into this camp. I see sex as a trade off to be with DP and do it to keep him happy, “one wrote, while another wrote:” Such an outdated view that women love sex and just keep men happy . Dated and sexist. ”
An anonymous woman from the UK came to Mumsnet to ask if most women “tolerate sex” to maintain their relationships. Pictured, stock image
The woman in question added: “I can see when I get older that I prefer to have just a companion instead of the constant pressure of sex” (photo)
The woman further explained that she noticed that she was lying to her partner that it was her time of the month “just to get some rest.”
She added, “As I get older, I see that I’d rather just have a companion instead of the constant pressure of sex – so am I the only one thinking this or just incredibly cynical or even possibly asexual?” Voice Yes = You are cynical. No = I can relate. ”
Many responded with approval and admitted that they had abandoned sexual intercourse after having children.
“I actually think you are right, most of the people I know, who I feel close enough to talk about these things, feel the same, admitted that they are all mothers of small children,” she wrote. “I know that sex is not as important to me as it is my DH.”
Some agreed with the cockles of the woman and suggested that many women take a break from sex while their children are small (photo)
Another commented: “It is not at all an outdated vision – after a while many women cannot be bothered by it or take a break while their children are small.”
Those who disagreed, however, did not hold back their opinion – and emphasized the importance of the physical aspect of their relationships.
‘Even for nearly 20 years with DH and sex, this is still an active position. If a relationship is at the stage where you lean back and think of England, is it perhaps going its way? “made a comment.
Written a second time: ’33 years together, still love sex with DH. He is a great lover and only his touch is electric. You sound very cynical. I never tolerated sex, women enjoy it too, you know. ”
Following the comments section, another argued: “I have never tolerated sex. Women also enjoy it, you know ‘
Meanwhile, others suggested that it was not fair for her to generalize, with some adding that they believe the reverse is true.
“I’m not sure if you can generalize, we all have different sexual needs,” wrote one. “I don’t think anyone should have sex just to keep the other person in the relationship.”
“If you don’t like your partner like you used to be when you were together, you should find someone else.”
Another commented: “I think the opposite is also true. It is not a male / female thing. Many men in long-term relationships also get rid of sex. It is very common for one partner to feel this way, regardless of his or her gender. “
Meanwhile, a third added: “I would say it is an individual thing and not a common problem that women have. I am the opposite. Dp very rarely wants sex, while I wish we had more, but I never ask for it, because feeling rejected is not worth it. ”
Others suggested that it was not fair for the woman to generalize, with an addition that they believe the reverse is true (photo)