A transgender student has opened up to becoming a bodybuilder and transforming his skinny figure, overcoming his uncertainty and fearing that he would never look the way he wanted to look like a man.
Alex Tilinca, 18, from Long Island, New York, was born a woman and passed through Alexandra before switching to a man as a teenager. Unhappy with his skinny frame, he discovered a supporting gym when he was a senior in high school and developed a passion for bodybuilding.
“When people ask me, I always say I’m not a transgender bodybuilder,” he said Today. ‘I don’t want to be labeled as a transgender bodybuilder. I am a bodybuilder who happens to be trans. For me, transgender is not something that you should limit or define. ”
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Confident: Alex Tilinca, 18, from Long Island, New York, told how he became a bodybuilder who helped him overcome his insecurities as a transgender man
Next: The full-time student is an amateur bodybuilder and has more than 19,000 Instagram followers
Alex’s parents, Florin and Monica Tilinca, said that as a little girl he preferred trucks to dolls and that his friends were always boys.
Before puberty, he suffered from gender dysphoria – the discomfort a person feels due to a mismatch between his gender identity and assigned gender.
“I really started to realize that something was wrong when I started to feel social expectations about being a woman, and that made me very uncomfortable,” he explained.
“Not to be morbid, but it is like complete and complete disgust of yourself and your body, and you get fear from other people who see you in a certain way.”
Looking back: Alex Tilinca was born a woman and went through Alexandra before he switched to man as a teenager
Hard to handle: as a child he suffered from gender dysphoria, the discomfort a person feels as a result of a mismatch between their gender identity and assigned gender
Family: Alex’s parents, Florin and Monica Tilinca, were helpful when he came out as transgender as a child
When the fear became too much for him, he told his mother that he was transgender and although she did not fully understand it, she supported him.
“She said,” I really don’t know what you’re saying, but you are my child and I love you no matter what, “he recalled.
Florin noted that Alex felt comfortable when he was honest with them about transgender because they always supported him unconditionally.
“We strongly recommend that other parents experiencing a similar situation continue to love their children, no matter what,” he said. “They are not doing anything wrong. They just try to manifest because they feel like they’re inside. “
Transition: Alex started taking hormone therapy at the age of 12 and when he turned 16, he started taking testosterone and had a “top operation” to remove his breast tissue.
All smiles: after his transition he had the feeling that he looked ‘very skinny’ and ‘weak’, so he went to a supporting gym and developed a passion for bodybuilding
Then and now: Alex’s dedication to bodybuilding helped him transform his body
Alex started taking hormone therapy at the age of 12 to block puberty, and when he turned 16, he started taking testosterone and had “top surgery” to remove his breast tissue.
However, when he looked in the mirror after his operation, he felt that he looked “very thin” and “weak.”
He initially went to high school in his final year in high school because he wanted to be “a little bit fiter,” but his “all or nothing” personality led him to bodybuilding.
At the age of 18 he came first in his men’s bodybuilding competition, and the memory of Alex receiving his medal brought tears to his father’s eyes.
Alex said getting up and posing was “so empowering” and felt like a sign from the universe that he was doing what he had to do.
Success: at the age of 18 he came first in his bodybuilding competition for men
All Muscles: Alex explained that when he first switched, his “biggest uncertainty” was the belief that he would never look the way he wanted to look like a man
Inspiration: “If I could help one or two people just feel better about themselves, I would feel like everything I do is worth it,” he said
“I’m sure there are people who think I shouldn’t be able to compete with the other men, but to be honest, it’s not really up to them,” he told the camera. “It’s up to the people who make the shows, and they accept it very well.”
He believes that the bodybuilding community has accepted him because many of them have come in for the same reason: insecurity.
Alex explained that when he first switched, his “biggest uncertainty” was the belief that he would never look the way he wanted to look like a man. Bodybuilding helped him transform his body and overcome that.
He now has nearly 20,000 followers on Instagram and regularly receives direct messages from people he has inspired.
“If I could help one or two people just feel better about themselves, I would feel like everything I do is worth it,” he said.