Ideally, you could ask your doctor, mother or best friend any question about sex, however delicate it may be.
The reality is that most of us cannot even imagine that they are raising many intimate issues without feeling deeply uncomfortable.
So I did it for you.
Here's what to do in all those depressed sex scenarios with odors, wind, menstruation, smegma, soils, oral sex and condoms that go missing.
Sex expert Tracey Cox answered ten tricky questions about intimate problems and hygiene in the bedroom (stock image)
I am paranoid, my vagina smells and I am convinced that my husband is far too polite to tell me if that is the case. How do I know for sure?
If he's in it for the long term, no one is so polite to shut up for something like that.
Does he like to initiate oral sex or should you ask for it?
If you are always the one suggesting it, ask him if there is a problem. Say: & # 39; You don't seem so keen on giving oral sex? Is there a problem? If I smell, I'd rather you tell me, then I can solve it. & # 39;
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If he says: & # 39; Now that you say it … & # 39; then make an appointment to go to your doctor for a check-up.
You can have a fungal infection (easy to cure) or a bacterial infection called bacterial vaginosis that produces a fishy odor.
A healthy vagina smells slightly acidic but certainly not unpleasant.
Has your doctor given you everything clearly?
Wear cotton underwear regularly to keep smelling fresh and try not to wear tight pants or jeans.
Use soap-free wax and do not use feminine & # 39; hygienic & # 39; products: many irritate the vagina and kill the good bacteria.
They also taste terrible – try licking your boyfriend's armpit after applying deodorant and you'll understand where I'm from.
What happens if I lose a condom in me?
The good news is that it doesn't get lost (so that fear of coughing it up for your boyfriend's mother is good … crazy).
To remove it, squat down, reach with a finger and feel around the walls of the vagina.
If you can't find it, your doctor can – and you may need a visit because you are clearly at risk of pregnancy because the sperm has disappeared there together with the condom.
Your risk of contracting an STD is also increasing because the condom clearly did not do its job to be a barrier between you and your partner.
If you do not detect it immediately and it stays for a day or so, you also run the risk of an infection.
I am ready for my period but want to have sex with my partner. Do I have to warn them or avoid certain activities?
There is no reason to avoid sex during your period – it's safe for both of you, just messy.
Hormonal fluctuations mean that some women have more sex during their periods and orgasms can provide relief in the event of cramps.
If you just want to continue having sex, go ahead, but be sure to warn your partner in advance (and be aware that although you may not be prudish, it may be).
You still need to use protection because there is still a possibility of pregnancy and you are more vulnerable to STDs.
If your partner is on board, you can leave your tampon on during oral sex, plug in the string and remove it just before sexual intercourse.
Lay an old towel on the bed to protect the linen and avoid sex on hard days. It can stink (blood smells and tastes metallic, only to be warned) and you may want to keep some wet wipes close at hand.
Tracey revealed what women should do if a man happens to lose a condom during sex (stock image)
Is it normal to let wind pass during an orgasm?
If you have sexual intercourse and he is on top of you, the movement of being pushed and pulled and / or lying on your stomach can force the wind out.
The penis also rubs against the anus, through the vaginal wall.
When we reach a climax, the muscles around the genitals – including the sphincter – relax, allowing any trapped gas to escape.
It happens – and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Sex is meant to be noisy, sweaty and smelly!
I really love my new husband, but he doesn't wash his penis well. How can I address this without embarrassing him?
I'm guessing you'll find smegma – a cheesy sebum that gathers under the foreskin and reveals itself when you pull back the foreskin.
It is there because your boyfriend did not withdraw the foreskin to wash under it. Smegma sounds like what it is: unpleasant to look at or to deal with and you absolutely must tackle this.
How depends on his personality and how comfortable you both feel about sex.
If he has a good sense of humor, is relaxed about sex and is not ashamed, the best way to deal with it is to joke. Say next time you have sex & Hey, you were good this time. The last time there were some nasty things. & # 39;
If that approach would make him run out of the room, never to be seen again, then choose the more subtle option to suggest that you take a bath or shower together and make it part of the foreplay.
It is easy to wash his penis well under the guise of hand stimulation – and if he notices that you are doing it, it is scrupulously clean, the better.
He gets the hint without you having to say it out loud.
The expert also discussed how you can subtly tell the news to a partner that they have a bad body odor if it is a & # 39; dealbreaker & # 39; turns out to be (stock image)
My friend wants me to lick his butt. My response was & # 39; Are you angry? & # 39; but he insists that it is very normal and many people do it.
It is certainly not rare. It becomes & # 39; rimming & # 39; called an oral anal activity that, as you said, is licking someone's anus.
Just like licking someone's pieces, it sounds disgusting until you reach the receiving end. You probably thought of this kind of oral sex when you were younger, remember?
A difference here: there is a risk of hepatitis B, syphilis, gonorrhea or chlamydia from someone's anus, mouth or throat.
If one of you has cold sores, you also run the risk of herpes.
You can get vaccinated against both Hepatitis A and B.
The other option is to use a dental dam. It is a square of latex, slightly smaller than a tissue, that you put between your mouth and other people's pieces to protect you against infections. (They are available on Amazon.)
The other option is to go to a sexual health clinic and have blood and urine tests and cotton swabs done so that you both get free.
You cannot get an infection from someone who does not have one (although you must trust that they will not sleep with others or use protection if they do).
My new partner has the worst body odor. I really like them, but it turns out to be a dealbreaker. Do I have to say something?
Body odor consistently makes No. 1 on the list of attributes that will most deter us.
It is caused by things that we control ourselves (do not shower regularly or change clothes and do not use deoderant) and some that we have no control over (people with diabetes are more prone to BO).
Some people just seem more sensitive to it, even if they are picky about hygiene.
Recent research has shown that you can actually catch & # 39; & # 39; if your partner has it. According to a microbiologist from Belgium, nicknamed Dr. Oksel, it is possible to transfer via bacteria flora that lives in our armpits.
It is in your interest to solve the problem for more than just the unpleasant odor!
The current warm weather gives you the perfect excuse.
Say & # 39; It's so hot! I may take a shower before we have sex. I don't want to stink. You can also have one if you want. Or let's have one together? & # 39 ;.
Then apply deodorant and say: & # 39; Do you want to borrow my deodorant? & # 39 ;.
If you think the problem is their clothing, sniff your own clothing and say: & God, this top is getting a little dirty. With this weather you can't get away with wearing something more than once? & # 39;
The sex expert advised using the warm weather as an excuse to shower together and then offer your partner part of your deodorant (stock image)
I'm happy to give oral sex, but don't want to swallow. What are the alternatives?
If you don't mind ejaculating in your mouth, just hold the sperm in until it is done with climaxes and then spit it discretely into a tissue that you have left on the side of the bed for this purpose.
Or get up and go to the bathroom and spit it in the sink.
As long as you do not behave as sperm is sulfuric acid, most men are not offended if you do not want to swallow.
My partner gets up and shower immediately after sex and I find it offensive. It's like he's trying to wash me off of him.
After playing is just as important as the foreplay: it's the intimate, romantic part. Getting up immediately after sex can mean that your partner is afraid of intimacy or wants to make it clear that your partner is a sexual relationship and doesn't read too much about it.
It can also mean that they are obsessed with cleanliness – in that case you will have noticed that he does it under different circumstances.
Another reason: he secretly believes that sex & # 39; dirty & # 39; is, a message that we often receive from strict parents and certain cultures.
Did you tell him that you find it insulting? If not, let him know.
He may not mean anything and just made a habit of it. At the very least it will get you talking about sex and your relationship, which is always a good thing.
I have large labia and am very ashamed of it. It stops me from enjoying sex. How can I get over this?
The lips of the vagina come in many different colors, shapes, thicknesses and combinations of all of the above.
The problem is that many women don't realize this, because it's not often that we see women with their legs open (and I don't think most of us would want that).
The only place where we see vagina & # 39; s is – you guessed it – watching porn, where they are often surgically improved.
However, there is a website called labialibrary.org.au, where you can visit a photo gallery and see a cross-section of labia from all different women.
It is a reassuring experience.
Many women have large labia, outside and inside.
It really isn't that unusual and most people don't throw away what the lips of the labia look like.
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