A single Australian woman has expressed her frustrations about dating in Sydney saying men have a “lack of maturity, lack of commitment and lack of forward thinking”.
Elle said Sydney’s dating scene has “performed poorly” because there are a lot of great women looking to commit, but men aren’t looking for a long-term relationship.
The singleton said she has noticed that Sydney men are more superficial, don’t put any effort into dating and move from one woman to another when things aren’t “easy”.
‘My single male friends can literally find a beautiful, intelligent, kind, motivated and committed woman to go on a date with literally weekly. “I have friends who are able to find a unicorn woman every week,” Elle said.
“I, as a woman, can’t even find a guy I’ve liked enough to meet, I’m serious, that’s how terrible it is, it’s the top of the funnel, that’s the problem.”
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Elle said Sydney’s dating scene has “performed poorly” because there are a lot of great women looking to commit, but men aren’t looking for a long-term relationship.
Elle noted that rising beauty standards are a contributing factor to the “really worrying” Sydney dating scene.
“If we look at reality shows from ten years ago and people who were the pinnacle of beauty back then or even just romantic comedies, compared to today, it’s very clear that the standard of beauty has changed,” she said.
“This is generally more true for women because there are more women who have cosmetic surgeries, etc., to fit that mold.”
Elle said men have a choice when it comes to finding a “beautiful woman.”
“We live in this world where I walk down the street and think, ‘Fuck, that would be a good time to be a lesbian,’ because women are so beautiful,” she joked.
“They’re all nice, they’re all smart, they’re all polite, they’re unhappy with the dating scene, they seem ready to commit, the ones I know.” What a time it is for men to find a wife, there are millions of incredible women.’
Elle said she believes men have an “illusion of choice” that makes them unwilling to commit to a relationship.
“In general, there are so many amazing options that if it’s not easy, they just let it go,” he said.
The single woman said she has noticed that Sydney men are more superficial, don’t put any effort into dating and move from one woman to another when things aren’t “easy” (file image).
She added that people have pointed out that it can be difficult for women to find men in Sydney because of its “transitional” nature and tends to attract “shallow” people.
Elle said she was last single before 2020 and her last partner wasn’t Australian, so she’s reintroducing herself to how guys date in Australia.
‘Australian men are just a strange breed to me… I don’t want to generalize, I don’t want to be rude, but everyone I’ve talked to is giving birth to sons; “Lack of maturity, lack of commitment, lack of vision for the future,” he said.
He said he has noticed that Sydney men’s Instagram followers seem like they “go to an all-girls school” as they follow “600 girls on Instagram that he doesn’t know in person.”
‘It’s strange, it’s actually a bit sick. My future husband is definitely just catching a fish somewhere with 200 followers and just living his life and being a man of values. Is that asking too much?’ she asked.
Elle said many of her foreign friends have also struggled with the Sydney dating scene.
“Everyone tells me that Sydney is the worst place I’ve ever been to date, the men here are all very childish, they’re not very forward, they don’t treat you very well, they don’t approach you, “They don’t take the initiative, They don’t plan much,” he said.
“They float around and want you to, I don’t know, watch them surf or something; it’s really weird.”
Elle’s “nice” male friends have apparently told her she’s “crazy” to be looking for a long-term partner.
‘They tell me about the dates they have with girls and give me the men’s point of view. In many cases, these twenty-something guys aren’t even dating with the intention of finding a wife and settling down,” she said.
“It’s very strange to me because that’s my only intention when I go out, that’s been my only intention since I was 16, call me crazy.”
Elle shared her thoughts in a series of TikTok videos and many Australian women quickly agreed with her opinions.
“Sydney has one of the highest beauty standards for women and you’ll notice the balance between attractive men and women is really imbalanced,” said one viewer.
‘I’ve had this exact conversation four times with my single friends in the last week alone. “It’s time we held a press conference,” a second responded.
“Yes yes as a single girl in Sydney yes to everything you said,” another commented.
“I’ve been single for almost five years because there’s really little to gain,” someone added.