Should a woman chase a man? Singles weigh in on whether the traditional ‘first move’ rules apply in modern dating – with mixed results
- Australian relationship expert Louanne Ward has asked a question on Facebook
- She asked followers if women can chase a man in the modern dating world
- Some said it should still be the man’s role to make the “first step.”
- Others said if women “want equality,” they should do it
An Australian dating coach has tackled the ‘modern dating issue’: whether women should be chasing a man or whether it’s still up to the guy to ask someone out for a first date.
Relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, Western Australia, posed the controversial question in her Facebook group She said, he saidand calls on members to decide whether they prefer ‘old-fashioned values’ or believe that women should have equal access to questions.
Some people felt that if women wanted ‘equality’ at work and beyond, they should take a step and ask what they wanted, while others preferred the way out of the past and the idea of a man ‘making love’ liked a woman.
Relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, Western Australia, posed the controversial question in her Facebook group She Said, He Said
Those who held to the tradition were outspoken about their choice in the comments section.
“I like the old-fashioned values of a guy who asks first,” said one woman.
“Call me old-fashioned, but I’d rather have a guy ask me out,” said another.
A third added: ‘In today’s dating world, yes, a man has to ask a woman out. I wouldn’t say it’s old-fashioned, my experience has proven that the ‘chase’ is important to build a good foundation. Women must also ensure that they are not always available, so that boys want more ‘.
While others were open to the possibility of being asked – or asked – by a woman and had already started doing so.
‘I like it when a woman shows that she is interested and yes, why not jump outside the square, it is now a new world so anything is possible. Don’t think twice, just do it, otherwise life can be lonely waiting, ‘one man said.
While others were open to the possibility of being asked out by a woman – or asking questions – and had already started doing so (stock image)
“Women want equality, so they have to ask a man out,” said another.
One woman said, ‘I actively try to chase men, only to be constantly ghosted so it’s very discouraging’.
Louanne was forthright with her own partner and believes that women should have the strength and confidence to pursue a man if they want to.
“One of the biggest criticisms I hear from women is that men never approach them again when they date. And I always ask when was the last time you approached a man and started a conversation? ‘ She said.
Louanne was candid with her own partner and believes that women should have the strength and confidence to pursue a man if they want to
“Trying to be absolutely is always better than being on the sidelines.”
The dating coach explained that part of our social construction has defined the roles of the mating game that have been around for a long time.
“A lot of people have been bought up by their parents, peers and social expectations to believe that a man should take the first step,” she said.
“I personally wouldn’t have a problem asking a guy out since I work in the relationship industry, but my upbringing was mostly focused on old-fashioned etiquette.
It wasn’t considered a lady like a woman to pursue a man. It’s just interesting to see what beliefs people hold when it comes to modern romance. ‘