A woman has revealed how she saw a nasty message about her from her friend, who sent it to the group chat by mistake.
Leading to the parent platform MomsnetThe British woman explained that she saw the message calling her a ‘fucking superior’ and that it was supposed to be a private message.
The woman claimed he was the only one who saw the horrifying text before it was deleted and is unsure if she should tell her friend she had seen it.
She added that she is “furious” and said she wants nothing more to do with her partner.
Others took to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with some saying he should confront the woman in the group chat.
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that she saw a nasty message about her from her friend who sent it to the group chat by mistake (file image)
The post read: ‘I’m in a group chat with some friends. There are like eight of us in the chat and we all do the same hobby.
One of them made a really shitty comment about me and something I said in the chat. He clearly intended to send it to another friend, but accidentally put it in the group.
‘I was there for about 3 minutes before she deleted it. I think she may have been the only person who saw it.
‘I’m not upset about what she said, but I am furious and I really don’t want to have anything more to do with her. It was unnecessary and cruel and I don’t bother spending time with people like that.
‘My options are a) do nothing b) tell him I saw him c) leave the group. C seems a bit extreme, but I don’t see how I can handle a) just because I’m so angry.’
The woman later explained that her friend had called her a “f***ing superior” in the message.
He added: “It’s complicated by the fact that it’s a really bad time for me, which everyone knows, and tomorrow in particular is going to be a very difficult day.”
“Stuff like this doesn’t really touch the sides, and I know it says a lot more about her than it does about me, but she’s kicking a bag of puppies to say it now.”
The woman claimed he was the only one who saw the horrifying text before it was deleted and is unsure if she should tell her friend she had seen it.
The woman later explained that her friend had called her a ‘f***ing superior’ in the message.
Many offered the woman some advice and some told her she should explain that she had seen the message.
Many offered the woman some advice and some told her she should explain that she had seen the message.
One person wrote: ‘Tell him in the chat. In short, “too late. I saw that Janice” and I let her die inside her. I would wonder why she felt that her other friends would be okay reading that to be honest and questioning the entire group of friends.
Another said: “Take a screenshot of the ‘deleted message’ and send it to the group chat and say ‘Too late Janice, I saw it and it’s very disgusting.'”
Someone else wrote: “Then send him a personal message saying, ‘You weren’t fast enough. I saw it. Talk about kicking me while I’m on the ground. “I expected better from a friend.”
A fourth agreed, saying: “Just DM her saying ‘thanks for that’ and let her squirm and block.” If she wanted to be part of the group, she would not participate in the group chat.
Meanwhile, others claimed that the woman should take the higher ground and simply ignore the message and move on.
Meanwhile, others claimed that the woman should take higher ground and simply ignore the message and move on.
One person said: ‘She’s allowed to not like you.’ She intended to send the message privately, not intimidate you publicly. And from your posts, it sounds like you’re not particularly surprised by her type of behavior, so I’d use these facts to ignore it.
‘You know she is negative towards people, therefore a fair conclusion is that she is negative towards you.
‘I realize it wouldn’t have been pleasant to read, but she never intended for you to read it. She’s a previously worthless idiot and nothing has really changed. Refocus.’
Another said: ‘Don’t answer. Don’t create drama in the group chat, it won’t give you a good image. You just have to know where you are with her and take care of yourself accordingly.
Someone else wrote: ‘I would take the high road. Take a long look at her the next time you see her because, trust me, she’ll be looking at you trying to figure out if she saw the message or not.
‘Or she already knows, since the chat can tell you who has read them, so she would have been embarrassed ever since.
‘I wouldn’t make it a big drama and ruin your hobby. But talk to her privately if you feel the need for her. As others have said, she is insecure and wants others to agree with her to make herself feel better.
