Murdered Libby Squire’s mother speaks of grief in the open

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Murdered Libby Squire’s mother says there was a greater ‘outpouring of grief’ when Sarah Everard was murdered – as she says boys need to be taught to respect women more to stop future tragedies

  • Lisa Squire has spoken out about the difficulties of grieving in public
  • Her daughter Libby was murdered in February 2019 at the age of 21
  • Lisa called for boys to be taught to ‘respect a woman as much as a man’

Murdered Libby Squire’s mother says there was a greater “ outpouring of grief ” when Sarah Everard was murdered when she called for boys to learn more respect for women to prevent violence against women.

Lisa Squire has spoken out about the difficulties of grieving in public in an interview with the BBC following Sarah Everard’s death.

Originally from York, Miss Everard was reportedly snatched from the street near Clapham Common when she walked home from a friend’s house on March 3. Her remains were found in the woods at Ashford, Kent.

Libby Squire

Sarah Everard

Sarah Everard

Lisa Squire has spoken out about the difficulties of grieving in the public spotlight following Sarah Everard’s death

48-year-old Wayne Couzens, who was serving a Metropolitan police officer, was charged with her kidnapping and murder.

But her tragic death has also put other high-profile murders of young women back in the spotlight.

It wasn’t until February that Pawel Relowicz was sentenced to a minimum of 27 years in prison after a jury found him guilty of the rape and murder of Libby, 21, on February 1, 2019.

Libby’s family was again put in the spotlight when Miss Everard’s death was compared to other similar cases.

Libby’s mom, Lisa, spoke to the BBC about what life is like to deal with such a horrific loss under media attention.

She described how she felt when she first saw her daughter on television.

She said, “It was the strangest thing. You know it is happening to you, but it is not happening to you.

Libby's mother, Lisa (pictured above), spoke to the BBC this week about what life is like dealing with such a horrific loss amid media attention

Libby's mother, Lisa (pictured above), spoke to the BBC this week about what life is like dealing with such a horrific loss amid media attention

Libby’s mother, Lisa (pictured above), spoke to the BBC this week about what life is like dealing with such a horrific loss amid media attention

“You are like a spectator in your life, if you will.”

She recalls getting up early after sleepless nights to respond to thousands of friendly messages from strangers on Facebook. Once Libby’s body was found, people also sent cards.

Lisa told the BBC that she was grateful for the support, but at the same time found it difficult to come to terms with the reaction of people she didn’t know – and with the way Libby was talked about in the media.

While Hull took Libby to heart, Lisa struggled with so many feelings that they knew her daughter.

“What I really felt was that all these people were talking about her, but they didn’t know her,” said Lisa. “She was my child.”

Lisa also spoke of the feeling in many that Libby’s case never got into the national mood like Miss Everard’s: “There wasn’t this torrent of grief when Libby died.”

But Lisa feels she has an idea why. The difference, she thinks, is that Libby has been missing for longer.

“Without being unkind, people get off the boil,” she admitted. “Unless it’s current and there, they forget … It’s human nature, isn’t it?”

Lisa thinks it’s important to talk again about what happened to Libby, if it means changing our attitude.

“We have to start talking to these guys from the moment they are old enough to understand that you respect a woman as much as a man,” she said.

“Hopefully this can help change things – and prevent another Sarah or another Libby.”

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