The killer’s chilling message revealed after his ex-partner’s horrific death was described as ‘domestic violence at its worst’ by coroner

  • The coroner’s report released into the May 2020 stabbing of Ruth Mataafa
  • Forced control is a factor that leads to murder of intimate partners, the report says
  • Ms. Mataafa’s ex-partner, who cannot be named, killed her and herself
  • Deputy Coroner Erin Kennedy Said His Behavior Needed To Be Acknowledged
  • The man was jealous and possessive of the victim leading up to the tragedy

A killer’s disturbing message, written before stabbing his partner to death, showed “domestic violence at its worst,” a coroner found.

Communities and future victims should watch out for red flags, according to the NSW coroner’s report on Ruth Mataafa’s death this week.

The 22-year-old died in emergency surgery after being attacked at her ex-partner’s home in Bidwill in western Sydney in May 2020.

Ruth Mataafa, 22, (pictured) died in emergency surgery after being attacked at her ex-partner’s home in Bidwill in Sydney’s west in May 2020

The ex-boyfriend’s behavior leading up to the tragedy revealed that he exhibited “compulsive control,” according to the report from the Domestic Violence Death Review Team (pictured, the ex-boyfriend, who cannot be named for legal reasons)

On the day of the murder-suicide, the man went to Mrs. Mataafa’s house and took her phone, which led her to his residence where his family lived (pictured)

The lead up to the tragedy revealed that the man exhibited possessive behavior towards Ms. Mataafa and was suicidal (photo, the words of his suicide message discovered by police)

The ex-boyfriend’s behavior leading up to the tragedy revealed that he exhibited “compulsive control,” according to the report by the Domestic Violence Death Review Team (DVDRT).

Deputy Coroner Erin Kennedy said that patterns of behavior displayed in partners in cases such as Ms. Mataafa’s should be recognized and not tolerated so that potential violent acts can be avoided, the Daily Telegram

reported.

She said there should be more open discussion about compulsive control, emotional manipulation and ongoing violence.

“They must not be accepted and they must be identified so that persons who experience them can see them for what they really are, warning signs,” the court heard.

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“Compulsive control” was recognized as behavior exhibited by her ex-partner, the DVDRT report said.

Forced control was a red flag for intimate partner murder, occurring in 99 percent of domestic violence homicides, the report said.

The lead up to the tragedy revealed that the man exhibited possessive behavior towards Ms. Mataafa and was suicidal.

Three days before the May 30 murder, her ex-lover wrote a suicide note on his phone, revealing his jealous and possessive tendencies.

“I’m sorry everyone for what I’ve done, yes, I just didn’t want anyone to have Ruth,” read the message discovered by police.

Her ex-partner stabbed Ms. Mataafa (pictured) several times in the stomach in his bedroom, while a relative tried to intervene

“Ruth is just too selfish to know I’m the right one. I’m sorry, yes, I just can’t bear to see Ruth with another man, even though he’s ugly.’

On the day of the murder-suicide, the man went to Mrs. Mataafa’s house and took her phone, which led her to his home where his family lived.

He then stabbed her several times in the stomach in his bedroom while a relative tried to intervene.

Obviously, he then turned the knife on himself.

The man, who cannot be named by name for legal reasons, died on the spot from stab wounds to his chest.

Police suspected his parents were in the house at the time of the attack.

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