For many, the biggest taboo on the wedding day is wearing white when you are not the bride.
So it’s no wonder beautiful taniaof New York, sparked outrage in a shorten recently posted on her TikTok page when she asked her followers if a long cream dress was appropriate to wear to a wedding.
The Bengali-American explained that she had only attended weddings within her own culture, where there is little idea of upstaging the bride, so she turned to the video platform for help.
The fashion content creator has three weddings this year and was hoping the nude dress wouldn’t be too white to wear.
Demanding “honest thoughts”, Tanya was keen to respect the tradition of no-white weddings and stressed that she didn’t “want to offend anyone”, but stunned viewers criticized her for asking the question.
Tanya stunned in a floor-length cream beige dress that featured a side slit, but it was too close to white to wear to a wedding, according to many who criticized her for asking.
The content creator, who often posts fashion-related videos, comes from a South Asian background where dressing to the nines is the norm with no formal dress codes or taboos, explaining that’s why she turned to social media in search for answers.
She pleaded, ‘I need your help, I received the most beautiful dress in the mail. I’m absolutely obsessed with it, but do we think it’s okay to wear this color to a wedding?
‘It’s like tan, cream, nude. I hope because I’m dark I don’t look white. Obviously I don’t want to offend anyone, it’s just the best formal dress I’ve ever seen and what I like.”
She continued: “In person she looks tanned but let me know what you think,” in the 37-second-long clip captioned: “I’ve literally only been to Indian weddings so sorry if it’s a dumb question.” ‘
The clip, which has since racked up more than a million views, divided viewers, many of whom praised the sundress as “beautiful.”
Surprised TikTok users considered the non-white convention common knowledge, but others were more understanding given their background.
One of them concluded diplomatically: ‘Not hard. Lovely dress,” while another wrote: “My policy is if you have to question it then don’t.”
And one user, a bride-to-be, admitted: “It’s absolutely beautiful but I’m getting married this spring and if someone wore this to my wedding I’d cry.”
A more scathing account said: ‘Of course not. I feel like once a year there’s a girl who does this: she asks for the most obvious dress and we all collectively say “NOOOO.”‘
Many of Tanya’s viewers were stunned that she even had to ask what they considered an obvious question, but the content creator explained that her background was the reason she wasn’t as aware of everything.
And one woman even thought Tanya was planning to wear this on her big day: ‘Girl, I thought you were going to say this was for YOUR wedding.’
Another stunned TikTok user said: ‘HOW is this a question, actually?’
But some rushed to Tanya’s defense, explaining: “Crazy concept, but not everyone grew up with the same culture as you.”
This prompted the creator to respond: ‘Thank you. Growing up only attending Indian weddings, a lot of these comments and ideas weren’t really obvious.