Now I don’t know if you heard, but I went to lunch with a porn star.
It was magnificent.
It was entertaining, fascinating and a little discouraging when he sent my brother a very risqué video. Shudder. But, all in all, a very good lunch.
But then a funny thing happened. I put a photo of the two of us on Instagram during lunch and the male species lost their minds.
Honestly, it was like I told a group of teenagers that I was having lunch with Taylor Swift. Suddenly everyone wanted an invitation… our lunch became the most popular dish in town.
Jana Posted This Photo Of Herself Having Lunch With Angela White And The ‘Male Species Lost Their Minds’
The messages, phone calls and direct messages came flooding in.
A guy I met once at a party ten years ago offered to come over and buy us lunch. Another very distant friend asked me if he could come and have a drink with us afterwards. He had a whole team of football players (yes, you probably recognize their names) dive into my DMs to find out if there were any ‘spicy lunch secrets’ I could share with them.
No guys, this was not a lunch followed by an orgy. And for the record, Angela doesn’t drink, so no, you can’t buy us martinis. Mister.
“A very distant friend asked me if he could come have a drink with us,” Jana said.
“A guy I met once at a party ten years ago offered to come over and buy us lunch,” Jana said.
The messages begged me to let them know where we were and if they could join, I also noticed another interesting change in attitude over the next few days.
The boys in my life started treating me differently. It was as if they thought I was about to go into the profession.
Over the next few days, I had guys ask me the most outlandish questions and I had to delete quite a few messages under my Insta photo because all the guys wanted to know two things: 1. Are we hooked up? 2. Can I put you in contact with her?
Then a couple of guys I had been talking to started getting a lot more presumptuous in their courtship tactics. Gone were the ‘Let’s go out to dinner’ questions, in came dick pics and direct requests for sex.
I messaged a guy I’d been on a date with to congratulate him on his recent marathon and he wasted no time getting right to the point.
Jana sent this man a congratulatory message after completing a marathon. Then, not so subtly, she hinted that she wanted to meet up for sex.
Spoiler alert: it was sex. A simple congratulatory message and then bam, I was hit with text messages.
Then there was the guy who just texted me saying, ‘Let’s go?’
‘The boys in my life started treating me differently. It was as if they thought I was about to start the profession,” Jana said.
Once again, he alluded to sex.
But wait, I’m not done yet…another guy I’ve been on some lovely, innocent dates with directly sent me a photo! He hadn’t asked for it, nor were we sending each other cheeky messages in the lead-up. It was “just ta-da, here’s my penis.”
Keep in mind, I hadn’t slept with any of these guys yet.
The simple act of enjoying the company of an entrepreneurial porn star/business boss had suddenly put me in a new light in the guys’ minds and, to be honest, it wasn’t necessarily something I enjoyed.
I spent the next few days resetting boundaries and expectations and deleting some guys from my dating list.
Thanks…next!
I got to experience what Angela endures on a daily basis and it’s basically a group of men acting like horny teenagers. The thirst was real.
The simple act of enjoying the company of an enterprising porn star/business boss (pictured) had suddenly put me in a new light in the guys’ minds and, to be honest, it wasn’t necessarily something I enjoyed.
Sure, it’s great for the ego to know that you’re so desired, but it’s not a real desire. In the eyes of these men, you are an object designed for their gratification. There’s something a little seedy about guys who assume you’re easy and just go straight to the smut.
To be fair, it’s enough for me to post naughty secrets for my followers every Monday on my Instagram. There are always one or two buffoons who write disgusting messages, but this was next level.
The world of porn is certainly an interesting place, and I take my hat off to the women who do it and stay sane. The crazy messages and interactions they would have with fans on a daily basis are crazy. She made my usual trolls look almost cute.
So please take me back to the courtship scene. The one where men remember their manners (and their pants). It’s much less disgusting.