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A bride was excited to finally marry the love of her life – but everything came crashing down after she noticed a glaring red flag during her partner’s wedding speech.
The 26-year-old newlywed had been sitting with the realization for several days when she finally shared her concerns online.
‘My husband is very sweet and kind,’ she said on Reddit. “We got married recently and during his speech he said, ‘When we were dating, I knew I had to marry you because no one can tolerate you better than me and I love to tolerate you.’
While she laughed at the joke along with everyone else, something about the sting didn’t sit well with her.
“I get dizzy and overexcited if I’m happy and I talk a lot, while my husband is calm, patient and always listens – I can see why it could be annoying,” she admitted.
One bride noticed a glaring red flag during her partner’s wedding speech
The woman wondered if other people also experienced their spouse making similar jokes at their expense.
One commenter gave a detailed explanation as to why such ‘jokes’ have become commonplace.
“I hate jokes like that,” she said. ‘You see it all the time at weddings, how men are “caught” marrying their wives. I’ve even seen men hold up “help me” signs.
‘I find them disrespectful. I would personally be pissed because your husband should love you to the bone and think you are easily the most amazing person on earth, not ‘tolerate’ you or even find you difficult to manage.
‘People find these jokes funny at the moment because the truth is we live in a patriarchal, misogynistic society where we’re conditioned to think men ‘making out’ with their wives is a fun, unanimous experience. ‘
Another said: ‘This is a way people have of letting others know they are not good enough and lowering their self-esteem.’
But not everyone accepted the ‘innocent’ comment.
‘All people are unpleasant, annoying and frustrating in their own way, and in a good relationship you don’t get driven crazy by the other person’s quirks. You love their quirks and see their flaws as part of what makes them someone you love,’ said one.
‘I can see how that comment at this moment felt strange to you. Unless he usually makes derogatory comments at you, I wouldn’t take it as an insult,” added another.