Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King have been best friends for decades, but they have completely different opinions about what they should do if they found out that a friend's partner was cheating.
In the latest installment of the current Oprah Magazine video series, The OG Chronicles, old friends were asked to weigh in on what they would do if they saw a friend's husband drink to another woman. While Oprah, 65, said she would go straight to her friend and tell her what was going on, Gayle, 64, disagreed.
The host of CBS This Morning, who was in bed with her girlfriend in public almost 30 years ago, explained that she would really confront the man and give him a chance to confess his wife before intervening.
Revelation: About the latest episode of The OG Chronicles, Gayle King and Oprah Winfrey revealed what they would do if they found out that a friend's husband was cheating
Approach: While Oprah (65) said she would go straight to her boyfriend and tell her what was going on, Gayle, 64, disagreed. She said she had to confront the man first and confess him for 24 hours
The situation was even more complicated because the Oprah Magazine reader who wrote it admitted that she was not entirely sure that the man was cheating – she only had a bad feeling about their interaction.
& # 39; They did nothing inappropriate. It was a Thursday after work, around happy hour, & she explained. & # 39; But when I said, "Hello," he was a little weird and didn't introduce her. I don't want to start anything between them. Do I have to say something? & # 39;
& # 39; I'd say something to him, & # 39; Gayle said immediately.
& # 39; Would you? & # 39; Oprah asked, somewhat astonished.
& # 39; Yes, I would, & # 39; Gayle continued. & # 39; I would go to him and I would say: look, I'm going to give you 24 hours and if you don't tell her, I'll do it, but I would first say something to him. & # 39 ;
The media mogul, who has been with her partner Stedman Graham for 33 years, imagined it was Gayle's husband to have a drink with another woman and said she & # 39; absolutely & # 39; say something to her.
& # 39; I wouldn't say anything to him, & # 39; she said. & # 39; I would go to you and say: & # 39; I saw him. & # 39; I have often spoken in life about whispers and how life always whispers to you, and when you walk into a situation, and there is a part of your entire being that says, "Hmm, something is not right." That's not it. & # 39; That is your instinct that you are trying to tell that it is not. & # 39;
Gayle was married to her husband William Bumpus from 1982 to 1993 and they have two adult children together, a son, William Jr., and a daughter, Kirby.
Story: Gayle talked about how her husband William Bumpus (not pictured) cheated her when they were married. They have two children, a son, William Jr. and a daughter, Kirby
Long-standing love: Oprah has been with her partner Stedman Graham for 33 years. They are depicted in 2018
Over the years, she has talked publicly about his infidelity – including what it was like to walk in with another woman when they were married.
The journalist first opened the shocking moment during an interview with Vanity Fair in July 2016, when she completed the Proust questionnaire and was asked: & # 39; Which living person do you despise the most? & # 39;
She answered the question by saying: & # 39; "Despise" is a strong word. I'm not a big fan of the woman I caught naked with my now ex-husband on June 24, 1990, at 9:16 PM – but I can't remember the details. & # 39;
However, it was only when she filmed an episode of The OG Chronicles with Oprah earlier this year that she revealed the woman she thought having sex with her husband was actually a friend.
During the interview, Oprah admitted that she believes her fellow TV host has been hesitant to open up to new friends.
& # 39; I think you have scars, & # 39; she said. & # 39; Remember that you had that friend who slept with your husband, and when you found her, you said: & # 39; I thought you were my friend! & # 39; & # 39;
To make matters worse, Gayle said her so-called friend did not regret her actions at the time.
& # 39; She said, "I never liked you," she said.
Disagreement: The media magnate imagined it was Gayle's husband to have a drink with another woman and said she & # 39; absolutely & # 39; say something to her
Oprah and Gayle met as journalists at the WJZ station in Baltimore when they were in their early twenties and 43 years later they are still the best friends.
With their history in mind, the two have the & # 39; most sticky situations & # 39; addressed where readers of the Oprah Magazine find themselves in regards to friendships in their new episode of The OG Chronicles.
& # 39; You really can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends, & # 39; said Gayle. & # 39; That is perhaps why friendship issues sometimes seem more complicated than family drama. We may not be experts, but I think we know a little bit about friendship. & # 39;
First they hired a reader who wrote: & # 39; My friend's boyfriend is shopping and wants my help, but I know my friend doesn't want to marry him. & # 39;
Both Oprah and Gayle agreed that in this situation they would tell the friend what was going on – and give that friend the chance to make the proposal themselves.
Another reader asked: & # 39; I text & # 39; accidentally talk to my friend about her. I intended to send the text to another friend. She hasn't talked to me for days. How do I clean that? & # 39;
& # 39; I don't know how to clean that up, & # 39; said Gayle.
& # 39; No, you don't format that, & # 39; Oprah agreed.
Shocking: in an earlier episode of the series, Gayle revealed that she was walking to her husband who was having sex with one of her friends during their 11-year marriage
BFF & # 39; s: Oprah and Gayle met as journalists at Baltimore & # 39; s WJZ station when they were in their early twenties and 43 years later they are still the best friends
Surprisingly, both said it seemed that friendship could not come back from this faux pas.
& # 39; Why would you do that anyway? Why did that happen? & # 39; Oprah asked. & # 39; What was there to teach you about yourself? It teaches you that you are the kind of person who will talk to another friend behind the back of a friend. & # 39;
However, not all questions received a cut-and-dry answer. The two friends had different answers when a reader asked how to tell her friend not to say the N word during concerts.
& # 39; Stop it. What do you mean, "How do I tell her to stop?" I don't even understand that question, & # 39; said Gayle, but Oprah was more empathetic and pointed out that & # 39; keyword here is concerts & # 39 ;.
& # 39; Do you know what? I'm confused too. I'm really confused, & she admitted. & # 39; I know white people are confused because they sing the songs, they buy the records, but when you start, what should you say? What should you do? You come to the N word and suddenly you sing the thing and what do you have to do white people?
Oprah remembered that she was at a Jay-Z concert and wondering what all white people should do now, when he sang a song with the N word in the lyrics.
& # 39; Shouldn't You Sing the Words? & # 39; she asked.
Although Gayle understood where her boyfriend came from, she disagreed and explained: & I know, it's a contradiction, but I don't like it. I don't enjoy hearing whites singing N words in their lungs. I do not like it. & # 39;
Close as possible: Oprah and Gayle (shown with Stedman in 1994) have been friends since they were 22 and 21 respectively
Wise words: Oprah (pictured with Gayle in 2003) said that the key to a friendship of four decades surrounds yourself with people who can really be happy for you
& # 39; Oh, what if they just hum a little. Do you prefer to sing a humming N word? & # 39; Oprah teased her.
Meanwhile, another reader wondered whether or not to confront a friend who ruined her reputation at work with her poor performance.
& # 39; I recommended my girlfriend for a job at my company, but since she started, she has made it into a half-tone and I feel that I look bad. Do I have to say something? & # 39; the person asked.
The two girlfriends agreed that she was not paranoid, the situation undoubtedly reflected her badly with the senior gentlemen of the company.
& # 39; You should go to your friend and you should say, "You make me look bad and I stuck my neck out for you and whether you want to be here or not – and if you don't, you would leave , "Oprah said.
& # 39; She makes you bad. Because they talk about you in the back offices, especially if you've advised that friend, they're talking about you and your friend is ruining your good reputation now. & # 39;
Another question that has come up time and time again is whether or not friends would lend each other money, something that Oprah is firmly opposed to after having been burned in the past.
A reader wrote in to say that her girlfriend owes her $ 500 in the last six months, but recently purchased a new designer bag for her. She wanted to know how to make it up without telling her how to spend her money.
Just like family: the children of Gayle, William and Kirby, are also a big part of Oprah's life
All in all: Gayle and her children spent Christmas with Oprah and Stedman last December
Oprah remembered that she could have borrowed a friend 5000 years ago, which she has never seen again.
& # 39; Just take it as a standard policy: don't lend money to friends, & # 39; she said, and asked Gayle to intervene: & # 39; But Oprah, what if your friend is in trouble? & # 39;
& # 39; Let me finish, & # 39; Oprah answered. & # 39; Give your friend the money and say, "Look, I'm just going to do this for you, you don't even have to pay me back." Because borrowing friends money will cause you major problems in friendship. & # 39;
Gayle, however, disagreed and said she thought it would be good to borrow a friend's money.
& # 39; Have you lent money to friends? & # 39; Oprah asked.
& # 39; I never borrowed it, I just gave it, & # 39; Gayle said with a smile.
Her good friend looked at her and said: & # 39; That's my point. & # 39;
The two ended the segment by revealing the secret of their friendship of four decades, and according to Oprah, it is about surrounding yourself with people who can be truly happy for you.
& # 39; This is really the key, & # 39; she said. & # 39; Gayle has always been very happy with her life. I am very happy with my life. So you want to have friends who are very happy with your performance and feel good about it and don't feel like your performance is taking anything away from them.
& # 39; To live a happy life, you need people who support you, people who are genuinely happy for you, & # 39; she added. & # 39; Frenemies and forced friendships, they're just not worth it. & # 39;
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