A father who admitted that he had put his nine-year-old daughter on a diet was accused of “having emotionally damaged her” and of having a risk of eating disorder.
The father, 34, presumably from the US, revealed on reddit that after he noticed that his child had developed “a belly,” he started cutting snacks, applied portion control, and brought her four times a week to parent-child classes at his local gym.
But his little girl, called M, then started crying for a sleepover because she was afraid people would hate her if she got fat, which would prevent her mother from seeing him until he changed his ways.
The father said he only had her best interests at heart, but Redditors hurled the father for imposing his health ideals on a nine-year-old without consulting a professional.
A father from the US, 34, was beaten online after admitting to Reddit that he had followed his daughter’s diet after he noticed that she was wearing some puppy fat (stock image)
The father explained that he thought his ex-partner was not doing enough to keep their daughter healthy, and that he did not feel that his two 90-minute physical activity sessions per week were enough.
After he was “closed” by his ex when he tried to discuss it, the father sharing custody of their daughter decided to use a portion control plate when his daughter stayed with him.
He also started packing ‘lean lunches’ for her, including carrots, yogurt and flavored steamed chicken fillet – instead of having her buy food.
The father also decided to take his daughter four times a week to parent-child classes at his local gym, and explained that he told the little girl that they were “working to prepare her for the future, physically fit and aware of what she eats. “
However, things came to a head when he sent his daughter to a birthday party and sleepover with vegetables and hummus as a snack.
The Reddit message shared by the child’s father, in which he explained that he didn’t think his daughter was healthy enough, even though he had been training for 90 minutes a week
“She made a fuss about not getting sweets, but seemed fine,” the father wrote.
However, he did not expect his ex-partner to call him angry the next day to tell him that the children had compared snacks in the movies.
I told the other children that they would get fat and unhealthy because their parents gave them those snacks.
She said she had to eat the vegetables to lose weight, and that she wasn’t allowed popcorn (I never said this).
‘When they ordered pizza from their children at home. She refused to eat and said she would get fat. The parents called ex and she came to get her, “he continued.
People on Reddit killed the man because he had put a nine-year-old on a diet and said this was a terrible lesson to teach a child
I cried and said she was scared if she would eat something that would make her heavier and everyone would hate her. She told ex about our diet and gym. I hadn’t done that, because it was my weeks and why should I announce all our plans. “
The father further explained that his ex-partner was furious with him because their daughter felt guilty about her weight, and said he couldn’t see her until he stopped “emotionally damaging her.”
The father, who believed that he was acting in the best interest of his child, said that he believed that his child would not be taller than other girls her age if she was really healthy.
Reddits hurled the ignorant father because he was nine-year-old on a diet and said he might have set her course to develop an eating disorder.
“Man, your daughter is NINE. She’s a bit chubby for what you said, and she cried because she was scared when she ate something. For God’s sake, you’re up for your daughter’s life, “someone said.
“You shouldn’t be near your daughter until you have resolved what’s going on with you in private therapy sessions. She is NINE YEARS OLD and there is nothing wrong with her growing body, “another said.
Some said the father should have consulted a dietician and could have damaged his child’s relationship with food
“I don’t think you really care about her health. You only care how she is perceived by others, “they continued.
‘That is a terrible lesson to teach your child and it is certain that he will have eating problems in the future. Portion control is a good thing to teach children. Eating healthy on a daily basis is important. Teaching them to be afraid of food and not teaching them about moderation is bad, “said another.
“A birthday party is a perfectly acceptable time for children to eat some unhealthy snacks and pizza, not time to” learn that snacks can be healthy “- does he teach her that every day? Or does he cut out snacks completely, “they asked.
Many criticized the father for not registering with a pediatrician or dietician before dieting his daughter.
“If you are worried that you will be overweight for nine years, you go to a doctor and if that doctor says you are worried, you go to a dietician. you didn’t let your healthy child live on yogurt and rhizomes, “someone said.
Others said that the father had put harmful ideas into his daughter’s head and had to stop before he did more damage
“She is NINE. Children will arrive before going through a growth spurt, “another wrote.
‘Your daughter is now afraid of eating food because she doesn’t want to get fat and people hate her. Whether you have said these words to her or not, you are the one who stimulated these thoughts in her head. These are the thoughts that people with eating disorders have and she is NINE, “wrote one.
‘If you want to pack her healthy lunches and snacks, fine. But your way of ‘teaching’ her makes her ashamed of her body. Imagine if your father made you think that the only way people love you is when you are thin. “
“I hope you have a plan to undo the psychological damage you did to your nine-year-old daughter,” they continued.
‘You betray harmful ideas about the body image in a child. Children go through phases while their body grows. You must stop this before you do more damage, “said another.
‘You teach your child to be afraid of food and she can start to choke. She wants to eat all of these “unhealthy” foods, but because they are forbidden, she will eventually crave them and secretly push them into large portions, “someone wrote,” you should learn to moderate … not avoid. ”