Weddings are a tricky affair, especially when it comes to being a guest.
Even though your responsibilities are nothing compared to those of the soon-to-be newlywed couple, there are some rules you shouldn’t break.
For example, earlier this week, Republican presidential nominee Nikki Haley caused a storm on social media when she appeared to be wearing white to her daughter’s wedding.
But the former US ambassador to the UN, 51, hit back at critics, saying her dress was actually gold.
Nikki Haley, 51, took to social media to share a snapshot of the big day as she stood next to husband Michael, son Nalin, daughter Rena and Rena’s new husband Josh
But the former US ambassador to the UN, 51, hit back at critics, saying her dress was actually gold
It sparked a fierce debate about wedding etiquette, leading people to question what the do’s and don’ts are for a wedding guest.
To help you, FEMAIL enlisted the help of a New York etiquette expert Myka Meier to make sure you don’t make a blunder – from appropriate clothing to how much you should be spending on wedding gifts.
It’s all about the happy couple: don’t draw attention to yourself by wearing something too daring
Myka, who founded Beaumont etiquetteadvises attendees to stay away from any outfit that distracts from the people getting married.
“The general rule of thumb for wedding guests is to avoid clothing that could distract from the couple,” she told DailyMail.com.
“The color white is typically reserved for the couple getting married.”
Wedding dress designer Madeline Gardner also shared it The knot people should also reconsider outfits that were cream or ivory, not just white.
“When you’re a guest at a wedding, the most important thing to keep in mind is not to upset or upset the bride,” she said.
“It’s safe to steer clear of outfits that are predominantly white, cream, or ivory.”
Myka advises attendees to stay away from any outfit that distracts from the people getting married (stock image)
What is the right amount to spend on a wedding gift? You should spend between $50 and $100
It’s a much-debated topic, but Myka has finally settled this argument once and for all.
“In terms of an appropriate gift amount, it depends on your relationship with the couple,” she explained.
“The average gift amount spent is $50 to $100, but if it’s a wedding for a close friend or family member, it could be $150 or more.”
“You may want to spend more if a couple is attending or if a single person is also attending.”
Think before you post! Always get permission from the happy couple before sharing wedding photos on social media
Myka advises people not to post photos or videos on social media unless you know the couple is okay with it or you have given permission to do so.
‘Posting a picture of the bride before she does could spoil her big reveal or they just want to keep their day private,” the etiquette expert said.
“I recommend not posting photos until you get permission. Look for clues on the wedding website or at the event itself – if a wedding hashtag is being promoted, it’s probably fine to post it away unless otherwise stated.
Myka advises people not to post photos or videos on social media unless you know the couple is okay with it (stock image)
Some couples or their wedding planners will make an announcement or have signs announcing that it’s an “unplugged wedding,” meaning no cameras, videos, or social media posts. Always respect the couple’s privacy and wishes.”
Another factor people should think about is asking if it’s okay for you to post or take pictures of other guests before uploading, Myka said.
“Don’t post pictures that could embarrass others, such as someone dancing, without letting them know you took the pictures. Also, people may not want to be shown drinking in photos,” she explained.
And don’t get in the way of the couple’s videographer or photographer if you’re trying to get your own snaps.
Myka added, “Finally, no live streaming of the wedding. You never know what will happen or who will see it, and chances are not everyone present on your social media channels will want to.”