“Our children made us hate each other”: Mother of Seven, 36, Constance Hall reveals how clashes over “disrespectful” stepchildren almost tore apart her marriage to husband Denim
- Constance Hall, 36, said stepparents nearly cost her her marriage
- The blog of the Perth mummy has four children from her previous marriage
- She now shares a son with Denim Cooke who has two boys from the last relationship
- But since they shared a mixed family, she said that step parents are a challenge
Controversial mom blogger Constance Hall has revealed how a stepparent almost ruined her marriage.
Perth’s mother has four children from her previous marriage – Billie-Violet, Arlo Love, Rumi and Snow twin – and she now shares toddler son Raja with her husband Denim Cooke who is the father of two boys – Zeyke and Sunny – from his last relationship .
‘Step parenting is ridiculously difficult. Last year it almost cost us our relationship, “she told her 1.3 million followers on her Facebook page.
Controversial mom blogger Constance Hall has revealed how becoming a stepparent almost ruined her marriage to husband Denim Cooke (pictured together)
The mother of seven said that step parenting had emotionally burdened their relationship
Who are the children of Constance Hall?
Constance Hall shares Billie Violet, Arlo Love and twins Rumi and Snow with her previous partner Bill Mahon
She shares son raja with her now husband Demin Cooke
Sons Zeyke and Sunny come from Mr. Cooke’s last relationship
‘At the end of last year, also with work stress, it all felt just too hard, I wanted to raise the children one way, my husband the other.
She said the couple was in conflict with each other about their different parenting styles – including how her husband disciplined their children.
“He is stricter than me, comparing our children made us hate each other, and I felt a ball of anger burn inside me every time he disciplined my small border attempts,” she said.
“He felt the same anger when he saw how they didn’t respect me, they felt the same anger when he hit, and so on.”
Mrs. Hall and her husband Denim share a toddler son Raja (pictured together)
The mother already has four children from her previous marriage – Billie-Violet (far right), Arlo (far left) and the twins Rumi and Snow (center)
Mr. Cooke has two sons from his last relationship – Zeyke and Sunny (pictured together)
Mrs. Hall said she felt that their “one family” had been torn in so many different directions, instincts go one way, the heart goes the other way and the head all goes together ‘.
“And to top it off, most couples pretend that it’s all perfect with smug photos on social media about how wonderful their Brady forest family has just been perfectly combined without any hiccups,” she said.
But after she had gone through the “most challenging time” in their relationship, Mrs. Hall said she learned many things about her seven children along the way.
‘All children are different, you cannot just say that one system works for all children. “This worked for my child, so it works for yours” is like saying “this is how I trained my dog to sit, so it will work for your horse,” she explained.
‘It is our job as parents not to control children, but to guide them. The term discipline is derived from the term disciple, which means that you must instruct with knowledge.
‘If you love someone, trust them and the intuition they have for the benefit of their children, that often means taking a step back, even if you don’t want to.
“You fell in love with your partner, not their children, and that’s okay. At most you will be like another parent and at least you will be a good friend. “
Despite the “most challenging time” in their relationship, Mrs. Hall said that the couple has since experienced their marriage
As a stepparent, Ms. Hall said her job was to “show the children what real love looks like” and to be “an example of what a healthy relationship looks like by loving your loved one.”
“There is the silver lining, you score a few small turdles that might make your life hell but one day the world might mean you,” she said.
Mrs. Hall said that the couple have since experienced their marriage.
“Denz and I crossed out, we remembered that we are just two soul mates who are challenged in very difficult circumstances, but the most important thing is that we are a team, our family is crazy and beautiful and impossible and perfect,” she said.
“We have made time for us again and have remembered what a perfect thing is for us to be part of it.”