Bride-to-be ‘filled with dread’ as she doesn’t have any friends to be her bridesmaids
Bride admits she ‘fears’ her wedding because she doesn’t have friends to be her bridesmaids – while her popular fiancé can’t choose which friends to be groomsmen
- A bride named Jennifer has posted on the wedding website Hitched that she’s worried she won’t have bridesmaids on her big day
- The 30-year-old bride-to-be from Essex said she doesn’t have close friends to ask by her side as she walks down the aisle
- As Jennifer struggles to find friends, she feels anxious when her husband cuts off a huge list of friends to choose his groomsmen
- After posting about her dilemma, other brides who chose not to have bridesmaids responded with words of encouragement
One bride-to-be has said she fears her big day after saying she has “no friends” she’d want as her bridesmaids — while others assured her it’s normal to have a quiet bridal party.
The bride, named Jennifer, posted on the wedding website forum docked to say she doesn’t feel like she has good friends to ask them to be her bridesmaids and ask others if this was normal.
On the forum, the 30-year-old from Essex writes that she’d always imagined having a ‘girl gang’ to celebrate her wedding anniversary with – but now she discovers she has strayed from her old friends.
Commenters responded to assure Jennifer that, despite tradition, they weren’t going to have many bridesmaids, urging her not to be pressured by Hollywood cliches about what weddings should be like.
The bride, named Jennifer, from Essex, says she is afraid of the idea of not having bridesmaids by her side as she walks down the aisle (stock image)
Jennifer wrote, “I always imagined having a wedding like this surrounded by a gang of girls who had known me forever and dancing all night surrounded by my friends.
“I used to have friends, but we strayed years and years ago when I moved south and it seems I haven’t had much luck when it comes to making new ones — though certainly not for lack of trying.”
According to the lonely bride, her beauty doesn’t have nearly as much trouble choosing people to celebrate the day with him.
She wrote: ‘My boyfriend has an army of groomsmen, he’s even struggling to decide on the final cut.
“I just have a feeling it’s going to be so embarrassing in the day.”
The 30-year-old wrote on the forum of the wedding website Hitched that she was concerned about the decision as the big day approached
While the bride says she would do well to hide her fears from her family and husband-to-be, she added that on the wedding day there will be no escaping the reality of being a “Billy no-mates.”
She added that the issue worries her so much that she would rather run away with her fiancé, but the popular groom-to-be doesn’t want that.
Describing herself as a “saddo,” Jennifer asked others if “marriage loneliness” was a normal experience and if it ruined other brides’ big days.
She also joked that she was looking for “Essex bridesmaids.”
In response, women stepped forward to assure her that they were in this together and understood her dilemma.
A bride named Emily reassured Jennifer that she also had no bridesmaids and opted for a more subdued ceremony.
She wrote: ‘I don’t really have good friends. Also, the idea of an OTT hen is my idea of hell!
My sister who got married last year didn’t have any bridesmaids either. I’m quite relieved she didn’t let me wear a fuzzy pink number!’
Another bride said she was in a “similar position” and planned to have a relaxing morning with her sister on her wedding day.
She wrote, “I feel like weddings are being romanticized in movies and reality TV and it can make people anxious (myself included) because they don’t have a wedding that fits the stereotypes.”
Other brides-to-be who sympathized with Jennifer’s dilemma offered her words of encouragement for having no bridesmaids
Another bride named Sam, who also lives in Essex, added that she had picked a few bridesmaids, but her party wasn’t nearly as big as her groom’s.
She wrote: “I feel in the same boat with only one best friend and my twin sister and small family compared to my groom’s army of groomsmen, two best men, a huge family and an extensive group of friends.”
Sam added: ‘I just own it and say quality over quantity!’
She also advised Jennifer to consider asking her grandmothers to be bridesmaids if they are still around.
Another bride-to-be suggested, “Maybe your husband can’t have groomsmen either or just have a witness to suit your decision.”