A woman who abandoned her “drunk” husband at the airport after he was banned from boarding their plane for being too drunk has defended her decision to go on holiday without him.
The anonymous traveler took to Reddit to discuss a recent incident in which her husband was banned from traveling on a flight, after spending time at the airport enjoying drinks before she arrived.
‘AITA for not disembarking with my husband after he was kicked out for being too drunk?’ The woman, 28, wrote on the famous r/AmItheA**hole forum about her 30-year-old husband ‘Adam’.
She went on to describe that they are both of the same ethnicity and share a “country of origin,” although she speaks their native language much better than Adam.
Adam’s grandparents were the first to travel to his current country, so he has more family where they currently live.
A woman took to Reddit’s r/AmItheA**hole forum after her husband got too drunk to board a plane on his way to visit his father, and she dropped him off at the airport instead of staying.
“My home country is far away, so tickets are expensive and I took time off from work for the trip so I wouldn’t go out with Adam,” she reasoned about leaving him behind.
As a result, the woman feels that she has become “close to her family” since they started dating, and is also making an “effort” with her family to become that way.
Meanwhile, the woman’s parents are divorced, and when she and Adam started dating, her father returned to his home country.
To further complicate matters, his father “disapproves of Adam.”
Additionally, “I’ve had fights with Adam in the past about how I feel like I’ve tried harder with his family and he hasn’t done the same for me.”
The fact that Adam is not as fluent in his parents’ native language has also been a barrier to connecting with the female side of the family.
“It was more evident when my father came to stay with us, but in the run-up to the wedding, my father stayed with us and everything worked out,” he added.
In any case, there was clearly a lot riding on the trip she had planned for her and Adam to visit her father in his home country.
Although Adam had agreed to come, he did so reluctantly.
Commenters overwhelmingly agreed that the woman was NTA, short for Not The A**hole
‘I’ve been planning a trip to my home country to surprise my dad and I asked Adam to come too.
“He agreed and then balked when I told him we were going to stay with my dad and made what I thought was a joke about having to drink before meeting him. I didn’t find it funny and Adam later apologized,” she said.
But apparently Adam hadn’t really been joking.
On the day of his flight, Adam had gone to the airport ahead of time to check his bags, and the woman met him there.
To his horror, he discovered that Adam had been beaten, to such an extent that the flight attendant would not let him board the plane.
Then he called his brother-in-law to take care of him, and just in case, he also left the brother-in-law’s cell phone with the flight attendant.
And with that, he embarked on his solo journey to see his dad.
“My home country is far away, so tickets are expensive and I took time off from work for the trip so I wouldn’t go out with Adam,” she reasoned.
But Adam still felt hurt by the move.
“Adam is now upset with me and says that I left him in a situation where he was drunk and that if the roles had been reversed, he would never have left me alone when I was drunk, but I don’t think that’s fair,” she further concluded. asking if she was the asshole in the situation.
Commentators almost unanimously considered her NTA, short for Not The A**hole.
‘NTA’. This man deliberately tried to ruin your time with your father because your father does not think highly of him. Let me guess, your father realized that Adam was immature, spiteful, selfish and ill-mannered.
“You have to ask yourself what someone who would do this to spite you brings to the table and why you stay with them,” one wrote.
A second replied: ‘Bingo. A very clumsy attempt at sabotage right there. ANT.’
‘Adam is an adult who made a bad decision. Adam has to deal with the consequences, and if that means leaving him behind, so be it. Maybe the next time you and Adam plan a flight together, he’ll show up sober and you can enjoy the trip together. NTA,” said a third party matter-of-factly.
‘NTA… The guy made a conscious decision to get drunk. I’m sure if he suddenly got so sick he couldn’t fly, you would have stayed with him. But this is not something that just happened to him or something you did to him. He made the decision to do this to himself and had no one else to blame. Enjoy your visit with your dad!’ -repeated a fourth.
‘Nta. If you accidentally get too drunk before flying in your 30s, you have a problem. If he did it on purpose, it’s a problem. Either way, letting him interrupt your life so you can pamper his drunk ass solves nothing,” said another.