A woman who was denied an appointment for fascia and gutters without her husband in attendance sparked a discussion about everyday sexism.
Anonymous writing on the British online forum Mumsnet, the woman explained, on more than one occasion, companies that carried out house repairs preferred to speak to the man of the house.
Many women have contributed their own experiences of sexism, both at home and in public spaces, and admit that they have boycotted service providers through the encounters.
However, some companies that claimed may prefer to have more than one person present at home appointments so they have a witness if something goes wrong and therefore it is not sexist to ask a woman if her husband is available .
A woman who was denied an appointment without her husband in attendance sparked discussion of everyday sexism (file image)
The woman who started the thread expressed her frustration and wrote, “I recently had someone come over to make an offer for new fascias and gutter. He was not happy to make the appointment without my husband present.
“We have renovated two houses over the years and I have done all the project management, plans, working with the builders etc. without needing any help. My husband is not particularly interesting in the details and I enjoy doing it. I love a project!
The only other time I’ve had this ‘little woman’ treatment was with a replacement door and one of the companies came over to make a quote for windows.
“In those cases, I assumed they wanted both owners in case I wanted to lock him out, but I don’t understand with fascias!
‘Am I unreasonable to refuse to hire a company for this? Also tell me your stories that it happened to you, which adds to my just indignation. ‘
The woman explained on Mumsnet that male service providers have more than once shown a preference for doing business with her husband
A stream of responses shared similar experiences, claiming that they had received documents addressed only to their husbands, despite being the person who organized the plans.
One person said, “YANBU. We have work at home ATM and although I am the person who signed the contract with the architect, I am the one who paid him and I am the person who mainly corresponds with him, it is my husband’s name about the plans that he has lined up.
“I pulled it up and he corrected it to both of our names, but I shouldn’t have!”
A stream of comments shared their own experiences that documents were only addressed to their husbands, despite being the person who made the arrangements
Another said: “I had a quote for plantation blinds and they said they needed the decision maker present. I said I’m the decision maker. I pay and I decide which blinds I want. No, they just wanted my husband there or both of us. I have not used them. ‘
A third added, “Other annoyances – delivery guy from the stove who, when I walked into the kitchen, said,” Oh well now we can show you how to use it. told them that my DH is doing most of the cooking and walked back out.
“And the window salesman who asked early in the conversation what my DH does for a living, but not what I do. Then it occurred to him to ask much later and I told him he said “oh you’re a smart girl, aren’t you”. ‘
One person argued that companies may prefer a wife to have her husband on appointments because it is safer to have a witness
One person suggested that it may not be sexist to ask for the husband’s presence: “To be fair to the trader in the case of the OP, many men are less comfortable with appointments in a woman’s house when there are no one else is present.
“When it comes to sexual harassment, it becomes one word to another. It is much safer to have witnesses. ‘
A number of women shared their experiences of sexism in public areas, including restaurants, mechanics and when purchasing a home.
One person wrote, “We were shown around a house by a male broker, and before he opened the kitchen door, he asked my husband,” Is she cooking? Wait until she sees this! As he looked around the kitchen, he continued to comment along the lines of, “Imagine the dinners she could prepare for you here.” ‘
Another said, “I went to a bicycle shop to buy a part. DH was with me, but he strayed to look at road bikes while finding what I wanted.
“While I was paying, the man at the counter said,” It’s very easy to fit, he (DH) will do it for you in five minutes. ” I was too perplexed to do what I should have done, which is to point out his stupidity and leave. ‘
Others revealed that they experienced sexism when visiting mechanics, restaurants, and viewing property