A woman who struggles to work from home because her neighbors are playing loud music has sparked a heated debate over who’s at fault.
Post to the UK Parenting Forum mumsnet, the unnamed woman explained that she has been working in her home office with her doors open because of the heat and the space is about ten feet away from a fence separating her yard from her neighbors.
She said her neighbors, who are a retired couple, spend most of their days playing music, smoking and sometimes making noisy visits with their grandchildren, but the final straw was playing loud techno music that could be heard during her work conference calls.
Many commentators sympathized with the woman, telling the woman that her “antisocial” neighbors should not play their music for everyone to hear, but others felt it was her responsibility to move her office space and it is unreasonable to expect her neighbors to be quiet in their garden because she is at work .
A woman who struggles to work from home because her neighbors disturb her with their music has sparked a heated debate over noise levels in gardens (file image)
The woman admitted that this is not the first time she has had problems with her neighbors, saying that “he has taken anger management courses in the past.”
Explaining her current predicament, she said the neighbors have “built a permanent gazebo on the fence, which takes the light away from her living room.
“It’s been there longer than we can report it now, so it’s here to stay,” she said. “Since they are a retired couple, they spend most of their days there, smoking and making music.
‘When their grandchildren come to use the temporary pool, there is constant yelling (and things thrown in our yard!).
“Normally we don’t say anything, but today they’ve started playing some kind of techno music that’s so loud that people on my conference calls can hear it through my laptop microphone. I have the door open because of the heat.
‘I tried to yell ‘Hello? hello?’ in a “friendly voice”, but no one answered. So they left the music on and left the yard, or they just didn’t care. I’m getting more and more annoyed that I might have to close the door because of their music, especially in this heat.
‘Am I unreasonable to think they should be more considerate? That when they built that structure on the boundary fence, they should have realized they couldn’t use it as if it were further from our yard? And, more importantly, how can I stop them from playing loud music?’
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman explained that her neighbors’ music is loud enough to be heard on her conference calls.
A flood of comments argued that the woman should move her office space rather than expect her neighbors to adapt to her need for tranquility.
One person wrote: ‘The neighbors can do whatever they want on their land. If you are so in need of a quiet space, why not move your office? You could definitely move to another room for conference calls and such if this is really an issue. Or just accept it.
‘You can also take an office in a different location – I assume you are running a business from home to save money on office costs. Maybe if you want a quiet environment you should work in an office building where other people work, not in a residential area? Just a thought?’
Another said: ‘I don’t think you can really complain about noise if you work with the door open, you will of course be disturbed. Yes, their music is annoying, but what if they mow the lawn, children playing etc. Close the door and buy a fan or portable air conditioner.’
A third added: ‘You can’t expect to have a work environment at home and your neighbors to make it possible. Home is home, where families around you will live their daily lives.
Many comments argued that the woman should move her office space rather than expect her neighbors to change their behavior
“It’s unreasonable to expect them not to enjoy themselves and not play music, because you’ve decided to make your home your job as well. If you can’t solve the problem with headphones or a microphone, working from home isn’t feasible.’
Others defended the woman, with one of them saying, “I don’t think it matters that you’re at work. It’s antisocial, inconsiderate and rude to be so hard on yourself. No one has to listen to music that loud.
“If neighbors can hear you, you’re too loud. When people decide to live in a residential area, they implicitly accept to keep their noise down for other people. If you want to be noisy, go to the middle of nowhere.’
Another wrote: ‘I find outdoor music very antisocial. I currently have to listen to pointless childish gibberish interspersed with some horrific “music” from the radio used by the construction workers next door. We also talked to them all weekend.’
Other comments agreed that playing music in gardens is antisocial and advised the woman to confront her neighbors