A woman who married her husband while he was behind bars insists there is nothing strange about their unconventional marriage.
Despite being in prison, Jay is married to his wife, Bleu, despite a meet cute that was more reality show than fairy tale.
“I married my husband over the phone in prison,” Bleu shared on the YouTube series Love Don’t Judge.
“We got married by proxy. We did our ceremony over the phone so he called, we talked, we did the ceremony, we said our own vows and voilà, we got married.
Bleu and Jay (pictured) met in February 2022 through a mutual pen pal in prison
Bleu explained that she was introduced to her now husband by a mutual friend of theirs, who was writing to an inmate in the same prison cell as Jay.
The couple – who proudly claim to have a dominant-submissive relationship – were introduced in February 2022 through a mutual friend, who had written to an inmate living in the same group as Jay.
After a year of writing through a prison pen pal service, the couple decided to get married – a decision she is happy about despite her parents’ doubts, which she says caused a “huge argument” between her and his mother.
“I stand by my decision to marry him,” Bleu said, defending her decision, adding that her husband had already served 11 years in prison.
“He must serve 15 (years) to be eligible for parole, which will take place in February 2028,” Bleu explained. “If that is refused, every six months thereafter he comes back – so it’s unclear how much time he has.”
“I didn’t grow up as a little girl thinking, ‘Oh, I want to be with an inmate like that, that sounds so cool,'” the happily married woman said. ‘WWhen (our friends) introduced us, I didn’t agree and I ended up falling in love with it.
Bleu said that as a larger woman, she was nervous that Jay would think she had catfished him – making sure to send photos of herself from every angle, and he loved what he saw.
“I thought (our first meeting) was going to be awkward and it was the complete opposite,” she exclaimed. “I just looked into his eyes for about five minutes, and even without touching him, I could feel him.”
Bleu speaks with her husband several times a day on the phone, where they plan their future together – which includes three children and Bleu starting her own business.
After a year of writing through a prison pen pal service, the couple decided to marry – despite Jay’s 30-year prison sentence and his parents’ disapproval.
Bleu is happy with her decision to marry Jay despite her parents’ doubts, which she says caused a ‘huge argument’ between her and her mother (pictured)
Although Bleu was worried their first meeting would be awkward, she said it was “quite the opposite.” Blue is pictured here with Jay and his mother
Although she is happy and in love, Bleu faces constant criticism from people when they find out she is married to a man in prison.
According to Jay, they are able to maintain their relationship because “no matter what happens, they find a way to get through it” and “know each other so well.”
Although she is happy in love, Bleu faces constant criticism from people when they find out she is married to a man in prison.
“I understand the normal stereotypes that he uses you for the money; you have no respect for yourself; You are delusional, she listed.
“I’m not naive about stereotypes,” she continued. “I think the only reason I get criticism is because I’m a bigger woman – because I’ve seen other prison women and they’re skinnier, prettier, more attractive on the societal plan.”
Blue said they had rules in their relationships, including: never discussing their arguments with anyone but each other, not arguing in public, and not going to bed mad.
Although Bleu did not specify why Jay was imprisoned, she said it probably “saved his life.”
“It’s not easy being a prison wife, it’s not for the weak,” she admitted. “If you want to hate it and you want to talk about it, do so, but it takes a strong, strong person to deal with this lifestyle.
“At the same time, as long as it’s with him, I’ll start again.
“Just because he’s the one I’m doing this – I’m not going to do this again for anyone but him.”