Confessions of a mistress: Woman, 21, reveals why she had an affair with a married man – and continued to see him for more than a year
- An Australian woman revealed why she had an affair with a married man
- At the age of 21, she fell victim to his charm and manipulation after meeting in a bar
- She accepted responsibility for cheating, but said it was the best sex of her life
- The affair ended after he & # 39; I love you & # 39; said, but quickly admitted that he regretted it
- She fought against her crush by sleeping with other men and being less available
An Australian woman who had an affair with a married man revealed why she stayed with him for more than a year.
Write anonymous for Mamamia, she remembered how meeting a charming older man in a bar at the age of 21 led to a long-term, adulterous relationship based on secret lunches, sneaky lies and sex in cars.
The woman told her story as a warning story and admitted it was the best sex of her life and naively said & # 39; I love you & # 39; – a recognition that marked the beginning of the end of their cheating romance.
She fought her crush on her by dating other men and becoming less available before she ended things forever by blocking his number.
An anonymous Australian woman has shared her experience of sleeping with a married man for more than a year, and has explained the difficulty she encountered in ending the affair (stock image)
After talking to an attractive 32-year-old businessman in a bar, the woman quickly fell victim to his charms.
Although he spoke openly about his wife staying at home, the man asked for her number so that she & # 39; friends & # 39; and arranged a day of cinema where they kissed for the first time.
& # 39; A few days later we had sex in his car. Then we started seeing each other almost every day – he had come from my office to my apartment and we would have the best sex of my life, & she said.
Addicted to chemistry and danger, she began to lie to her friends and family to hide the affair and soon fell deeply in love with him.
Their long-running affair was marked by secret lunch dates, sneaky lies and sex in cars (stock image)
& # 39; One day I told him I loved him and he said it back. After we said I love you, sex got even better, & she admitted, and afterwards acknowledged that she was just a young girl in love with someone who had an uncertainty about men.
But weeks later he told her he was sorry & # 39; I love you & # 39; to say, a recognition that turned out to be a much-needed wake-up call.
She fought consciously against falling in love by becoming less available and secretly dating other people, realizing that he would eventually continue his family life and leave her alone.
They stopped meeting for lunch dates and limited their relationship to the bedroom, but she admitted that she felt bitterness and hatred toward him even during sex.
& # 39; I would constantly throw his marriage in his face. I would comment on how good men don't lie to their children's mothers. Good men don't cheat their wives, & she said.
What causes relationships to fail?
A relationship can have many drawbacks, but & # 39; marriages often die more from ice than from fire & # 39 ;, says relationship expert. Michael McNulty.
Couples drift apart and this often leads to separation.
The first steps that cause couples to fall apart in a break-up can be broken down as follows:
Phase one: More negativity than positivity seeps into the relationship.
Phase two: The four horsemen of the apocalypse: contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling all contribute to a toxic relationship.
Phase three: Flooding – The stage where anger begins to come out of the relationship and the partners become very emotional.
Phase four: Emotional withdrawal – Check out after the huge amount of emotional turmoil before this is where relationships grow old, with both parties already.
The relationship stopped when both parties began to sleep with other people, and the wife eventually got tired of the cheating husband and his lies.
& # 39; Admittedly, it took several attempts to walk away from this unhealthy relationship & # 39 ;, she said.
& # 39; Anyone who has had a toxic relationship knows how hard it is to leave. But after several attempts, with pain and tears, I finally blocked his number and never spoke to him again. & # 39;
Years later, the woman admitted that she still remembers the experience of sadness and shame.
She warned others of the dangers of confusing lust for love and simply said: & # 39; It's not worth it. & # 39;
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