‘Tis the season to spread some holiday cheer, but one woman has sparked fierce debate after suggesting that single and divorced friends shouldn’t send holiday wishes to their married friends.
A mother and wife, who posts under the username. @jnobles28, shared a short rant to tiktokwhere he asked users what they would do in his situation.
‘If you are married, would you be okay with your husband or wife receiving a Christmas card from your single or divorced friends?’ she asked.
The content creator went on to explain that every year her husband receives a Christmas card from a divorced friend of his, who is a woman.
“She’s a single mother and I know he’s known her for years, but I’ve never met her,” he explained.
The mother of two went on to say that the couple has known each other for years, but that she has never met the woman in question.
‘She sends the Christmas card addressed to him, so I don’t know.’ he questioned, adding in a comment that the card is just a “basic” card with no personalized message.
“I think that’s a little strange, what do you guys think?”
A mother and her wife, who posts under the username @jnobles28, shared a short rant on TikTok, asking users what they would do in their situation (file image)
Users largely defended her husband’s friend, pointing out that it’s not unusual to keep in touch with someone you’ve known for a long time.
‘I’ve known my friends for over 15 years. I would send them a Christmas card if I was married OR divorced. I’ve known them longer than my husband, for God’s sake! one person exclaimed.
‘I’ve been married for 23 years, I don’t keep an eye on my husband’s friends. He had a life before me and I am so happy that he has people in his life who love him. I don’t care what your gender is,’ another noted.
‘My mom sends like 50 Christmas cards every year. She only has one list. He doesn’t think much about it. What I mean is that it’s not that serious,’ another person responded.
‘Would it matter if I had a partner? Would you be okay with her and her partner sending a card? “I don’t think I love your husband if he only sends you one card a year,” someone else noted.
Others were on the wife’s side, saying they would not be happy if they were in her position.
‘Only addressed to him. I don’t think so. I’d be writing a return to sender and returning it at checkout,’ someone else joked,’ one wrote.
“I wouldn’t be a fan of this, but I sure would make fun of my husband about his ‘other family,'” someone else joked.
The content creator went on to explain that every year her husband receives a Christmas card from a divorced friend of his, who is a woman, and she is not happy about it (file image)
Users largely defended her husband’s friend, pointing out that it’s not unusual to keep in touch with someone you’ve known for a long time.
Last year, etiquette expert William Hanson shared the do’s and don’ts of sending Christmas cards.
“Receiving anything through your letterbox from your closest loved ones over the festive period is always nice and makes you feel warm inside,” William told his 1.4 million followers in a Instagram video.
“Christmas cards should be sent to anyone you want to express festive wishes to,” he adds.
You can send as many or as few as your dolls can write. That said, it’s pretty standard practice among the most prolific card writers to keep a list of who sends you cards and who, in turn, you send them to.
‘I have a rule that if I don’t get a card from someone for three years, that person is off the list, no matter how much I love them. You have to give to receive.’