BYO … BBQ! Woman asks if it’s ‘wrong’ to refuse friends who asked her to lend them her barbecue for a backyard gathering she wasn’t even invited to
- One woman said her friends invited her to a barbecue but wanted her to bring the barbecue
- She said they wanted her BBQ to host another party she wasn’t invited to
- She went to Mumsnet and asked if it was “unreasonable” to refuse an occasional request
- The woman explained that she had no place for the barbecue and her children in the car
- Other users said her friends were “cheeky” and “idiot” asking her
A British woman revealed that her friends had invited her to a barbecue, but asked her to bring the barbecue so they could organize a dinner to which they hadn’t even invited her.
The anonymous woman did Mumsnet to share the ‘cheeky’ story, asking others if she was ‘unreasonable’ to be furious that they wanted her to give them a barbecue so they could have a second party.
The woman explained that her friends invited her but didn’t have a barbecue of their own, so asked her to bring one and leave it at their house for another event they had the same day – but they hadn’t even bothered to invite her.
A British woman revealed that her friends invited her to a barbecue, but bizarrely expected her to bring the barbecue, as they didn’t actually have one (stock image)
The woman went to Mumsnet to explain that her friends also wanted her to leave the barbecue at their home for another event they had the same day – to which they had not invited her.
Posting as dotdashdashdash, she continued, ‘AIBU [am I being unreasonable] if you think it’s really cheeky to invite someone over for a BBQ expect them … The BBQ !?
We were invited by friends for a BBQ last week. They called this morning to borrow our BBQ, we assumed it was broken or the one they ordered hadn’t arrived etc – but no. They don’t have one.
So we suggested they come to ours and bring some stuff they bought as our BBQ is very heavy and big (won’t fit in the car without removing the child seats and laying all the seats flat), but it turns out , that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it with them because they have other friends tonight.
Was IBU [I being unreasonable] say no? That I didn’t want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle home and leave it with them? ‘
Other Mumsnet users were quick to assure the woman that she was by no means ‘unreasonable’ and even described her boyfriends as ‘crazy’ for the ‘cheeky’ request.
The poster added that they had already made dessert and brought food to the event, saying their friends were getting annoyed when they said they wouldn’t bring the barbecue.
She asked others if they were ‘unreasonable’ when she explained that the barbecue wouldn’t fit her kids in her car, so she would also have to travel twice to comply with the bizarre request.
Other Mumsnet users were quick to assure the woman that she was by no means “unreasonable” and even described her boyfriends as “crazy” for the “cheeky” request.
One person wrote: ‘It sounds like they just invited you to the BBQ …’
A second fumed: “So you’re invited to a DIY BBQ, so they can buy your tasty gas BBQ for free for the real BBQ later, which you weren’t actually invited to?”
While a third said, ‘Just no. I would reconsider the friendship afterwards … ‘
A fourth wrote: ‘That’s really cheeky of them.
“There were piles of disposable barbecues at my local Tesco yesterday, I’m sure your friends could have found something similar if they had tried!”
One person joked that it was like asking someone to bring a baby to a baptism, while other users found the friends ‘shameless’ and ‘idiot’ for not buying their own barbecue.
And another wondered if the friends would have thrown them out for the second position, writing, ‘What would have happened if you had a great afternoon and didn’t want to leave early …
“Would they have wanted you out before the evening guests arrived?”
One person joked that it was like asking someone to bring a baby to a baptism, while hordes of other users thought the friends were ‘shameless’ and ‘idiot’ for not buying their own barbecue.
Another user said, ‘There is no situation or circumstance I can imagine where I would have the balls to be so shameless.
‘What goes through these people’s minds when they plan these things? You’re not unreasonable at all, I think they are cheeky and pretty crazy lol ‘
The woman later revealed that she said no to bringing the barbecue and decided not to attend the event after the bizarre ordeal.