Woman considers ending her relationship after learning that his mother washes his laundry every week
Wife reveals she’s thinking of ending her relationship after finding out his mom washes his laundry weekly – so, would it be a deal breaker for YOU?
- An anonymous woman living in the UK is considering ending her relationship
- Said her partner works 40 hours a week and depends on mom to wash his laundry
- Post on Mumsnet, said he has the physical and mental cable to do it himself
- Many comments said they would be put off dating someone who relies on parents
A woman has revealed that she is thinking about ending her relationship because her boyfriend relies on his mother to do his laundry.
Anonymous posting on Mumsnet, the woman, who lives in the UK, explained that the man she’s dating works 40 hours a week by default and lives alone.
However, she has doubts about their relationship after she learns that he takes his laundry with him once a week to wash at his mother’s house.
Many commenters agreed that they wouldn’t want to date a guy who relies on his mom to do his laundry, but others said it wouldn’t be a deal breaker unless she gets overly involved in the relationship.
A woman living in the UK has sparked a debate about dating someone who relies on their parents to wash their laundry (file image)
‘I met a man: he seems okay, he only works the standard 40 hours a week and lives alone. He brings his wash to his mother once a week.
‘I don’t know, but the thought of a grown man having his mother wash his dirty underwear turns me off. Makes me think about ditching it.
‘Now I KNOW it’s my right to end it for any reason, but I’m interested if this would be a deal breaker for you too or am I being unreasonable?’
She added a few disclaimers saying that the man is’ mentally and physically able ‘to do his own laundry, and that she is not talking about’ borrowing her machine if he’s too small for a duvet, for example.
The user also admitted that she would think differently about a man with a very busy job using a laundry service or a maid because he can afford it.
When she posted on Mumsnet, the woman explained that her partner takes his clothes once a week to be washed by his mother
A deluge of comments on the thread agreed with the woman’s decision to end the relationship.
One person wrote, ‘Yes, it would put me off. Even when the mother is alone and it gives her a ‘purpose’, it’s still a strange dynamic that I wouldn’t want to be involved in. 40 hours a week gives him enough time to stick on a few washes. ‘
Urgh no. To me it screams ‘overly concerned mother’. That is horrible. I have a friend who is like this and his mom is way too attached. On a side note, she cries a lot and I think she’s emotionally blackmailing him. It’s a strange dynamic and he’s understandably still single at 41, ‘said another.
A third added, “My son has been doing all his own laundry since his early teens, so yeah, that would really put me off!”
The comments on the thread admitted that it would scare them to be in a relationship with a guy who can’t wash his own laundry
However, one admitted that they wouldn’t end the relationship unless their partner’s mother gets involved in multiple aspects, saying, ‘It wouldn’t bother me on its own. But I would like to know what else she does for him?
“Is he just a male kid who can’t take care of himself and has to do everything or she does it, so he goes around twice a week so she knows she will see him.”
Another wrote: ‘It would certainly be a turnoff for me. If he was fantastic in every other way it might not be a deal breaker, but I should be wondering what his take on women / woman roles if he still gets his mom to wash his clothes’
A third said: ‘Does his house have a working washing machine he could use? To be fair, when my daughter and her partner come to visit I do their laundry for them, underwear and everything. I have no idea why this might be weird or skanky. ‘
Others claimed they wouldn’t end the relationship unless their partner’s mother became overly involved