Woman is branded ‘ridiculous and immature’ for asking partner to get rid of framed photo with his ex on the day their daughter was born – even though he covered up his former partner in a pinch
- Woman takes to British parenting site Mumsnet to complain about framed photo
- Said it shows her partner with his ex the day their daughter was born
- She only realized ex was in it after a piece of cardboard covering her face slipped away
- Users labeled her “immature” because she had a problem with the image of a happy memory
A woman has been branded ‘ridiculous and immature’ after disagreeing with her boyfriend for carrying a photo of his ex-girlfriend and daughter.
Post on the UK parenting website mumsnet, the woman explained her frustration with her boyfriend for holding on to the family photo, saying he should have at least ripped his ex out of the picture.
However, she admitted that the ex was covered in a piece of cardboard and that she only realized she was in the photo when it slid down the frame.
She claimed she didn’t understand why he would still want a photo in their home, whether she’s the mother of his child or not, and said he should have “teared off” the part of the photo with her in it.
Her attitude shocked fellow users, with many pointing out that a photo of the day his child was born is a happy memory for her partner, and that his ex’s face was not even visible.
The Mumsnet poster accepted that her opinion was probably not fair, but said she finds it “disrespectful” to stick to pictures with an ex-partner
The woman explained the situation: ‘Partner has been separated from his ex for three years. They have a child together. I’ve been with him for a year.
“He has a picture of the three of them when their child was just born, in a closet in his front room.
“He’s had the statue there for ages—since I’ve been with him, but there was a piece of card in the shape of a heart covering her. Today I saw that it had slid down and I could see her face.’
She told him in a “semi-lighthearted way” that he had to get rid of it and asked why he still had a picture with her.
“He immediately folded the bit back with hair on it,” she said. “I was happy then…but now that I think about it, why not delete the photo or tear off the part with her on it?
“Maybe I’m being unreasonable, but they were together for eight years and I don’t understand why he would still want that photo, whether she’s the mother of his child or not. “They’re friendly, not overly friendly and I don’t think he would go back, but I don’t get it.
‘I can’t help how I feel. For me, the past is the past and you don’t have images of your ex in sight when you have a partner. I think he thinks otherwise.
“Okay, I get it, I’m the crazy partner. I think I’m probably crooked because my ex is horrible and the thought of having a picture of him in my house is absurd. Besides, I would be disrespectful to my current partner, but apparently not.’
The majority of commentators labeled the woman “too insecure” and said she needs to grow up, especially in a relationship that involves a child.
Multiple commentators told the woman she should grow up or end the relationship
“It’s not something that would bother me personally. It’s not like it’s a huge canvas over the fireplace or a shrine to her or anything,” someone said.
Another added: ‘You are crazy. It is a beautiful memory of a time, even though they are no longer together, and will be fun for his child to see later in life. It’s a photo! What else is happening in the relationship that makes you so insecure?’
A fellow commentator didn’t mince his words and said, “Rip out his child’s mother’s face. Real. Is that a reasonable solution for you? Your boyfriend should run for the hills.”
And one Mumsnet user labeled her view “ridiculous” and said it would be “terrible” for her partner’s child to see her mother’s face ripped out of a photo.
A small number of commenters said they understood why the woman didn’t like it and said she has a right to feel unhappy about it
However, a handful of commentators supported her, saying she had a right to feel unhappy about it and agreed that they didn’t want him to stick to the photo.
“It’s not necessary,” someone said. “He can replace it with one of his and his child.”
Others suggested it’s fine to keep the photos in the house, but they should be kept in the child’s bedroom and not displayed.