People often do everything they can to avoid their partner’s exes, but a woman has made an unlikely friendship with her partner’s ex-wife.
JJ Barnes, 35, from Stafford, admitted that she initially felt ‘weird’ when her partner Jonathan Mckinney, 38, revealed that he was still ‘good friends’ with his five-year-old ex-wife Kate Marris, 36.
But five years later, screenwriter JJ calls Kate one of her “ best friends, ” because the couple sees each other every day, goes to the pub together, and even spent Christmas as a trio.
JJ admitted she was intimidated by Kate when she first met her in 2015, but said she realized Kate had parted ways with Jonathan as friends and the couple kept in touch for their son Ezekiel, seven.
JJ Barnes (left), 35, from Stafford, admitted feeling ‘weird’ when her partner Jonathan Mckinney, 38, revealed he was still ‘good friends’ with ex-wife Kate Marris, 36 (right)
But five years later, and screenwriter JJ (front) calls Kate (left) one of her “ best friends, ” as the pair see each other every day, go to the pub together, and even spend Christmas as a threesome.
She explained: ‘When I first met Kate in 2015, I was intimidated by her beauty and intelligence.
‘It was quite unnerving that she was still there. But their marriage ended because they looked more like friends than lovers.
They kept in touch for their son Ezekiel, seven, which is great.
“I immediately respected Jonathan when he made it clear that Kate is an important part of his life because she is the mother of his son.”
Jonathan went through divorce in 2014 when he met JJ, who had recently become a single mother to Rose, and then three. JJ and Jonathan have since welcomed a baby named Buffy, who is now four.
After dating for a few months, the women were introduced and have been inseparable ever since, as JJ, Kate and Jonathan finish school together every day.
JJ (left) said she was intimidated by Kate when she first met her in 2015, but realized that Kate had parted ways with Jonathan as friends and the couple kept in touch for their son Ezekiel, seven years old.
Jonathan went through divorce in 2014 when he met JJ (left), who had recently become a single mother to Rose, then three
Jonathan (left) admitted that he could never have imagined the two women forming a friendship, saying his main focus was for his son to grow up with his parents who were “ positive ” about each other.
Kate is often invited to their homes for a cup of tea, glass of wine or dinner so the kids can all play together, and they also spend Christmas together enjoying many child-free nights out.
JJ continued: “At first it was strange that I understood it all, but never weird, because I was always involved.
‘I had to get used to how their friendship works. Then it suddenly fell into place.
Kate became a friend we associate with.
“We see Kate every day while she lives a five-minute walk away.
My daughter Rose calls her Aunt Kate because she has always been a part of her life.
“ Our friendship is like any other – we text a lot and sometimes I even complain that Jonathan doesn’t pick up his socks because we have a shared frustration. ”
JJ, who is also divorced, admitted that her friends and family were “confused” and “worried” at first, but she insisted that breaking up doesn’t always mean “hate”.
She added: ‘There is an assumption that a breakup means you hate each other. But relationships can end for a variety of reasons.
‘Most people think it’s weird and weird that we’re all buddies, but now they’re used to it. Kate is like one of my best friends now.
‘I think women often have cat fights with an ex’s new partner and there is no need to.
‘When children are involved, it is important that everyone gets along. It makes everything healthier, our children see no harm or hatred.
“It doesn’t occur to our children that Mom and Dad would fight.”
Kate (left) is invited to their home for a cup of tea or dinner so the children can play together, as well as celebrate Christmas together and enjoy many child-free nights out
JJ (left), who is also divorced, admitted that her friends and family were “confused” and “worried” at first, but she insisted that breaking up doesn’t always mean “hate”.
JJ (left) said her daughter calls Rose Jonathan’s five-year-old ex-wife ‘Aunty Kate’, who has always been a part of the young girl’s life
Jonathan admits, however, that he has the two women who formed a friendship and said his main focus was on his son growing up with his parents who were ‘positive’ about each other.
The musician explained, ‘People have relationships, sometimes they end, it can be sour at first, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.
“I’m glad JJ and Kate are getting along. I didn’t really think they would develop a friendship.
My main thing early on was to make sure I respected the different emotional dynamics I could predict.
“I wanted my son to grow up in an environment where the adults who raised him were positive about each other and enforced each other’s rules and philosophies, and so on.
‘Their friendship is actually their friendship. As long as we’re all on board with the impact of our parenting on all kids, I’ll take it easy with everything else. ‘