A woman who went through the menopause at the age of 20 has started a desperate crowdfunding campaign to get her dream baby.
Jade Burns, 30, was devastated when she discovered that she could not imagine that she was diagnosed with early ovarian failure (POF).
She hadn't had any typical menopausal symptoms, but was worried that she'd never had a period when she started college.
The healthcare worker has since suffered two miscarriages after becoming pregnant through an egg donor through IVF.
Now, her and her husband, Jon Burns, 30, are no longer eligible for IVF through the NHS in her area, in Leigh-on-Sea, Essex, because they have had two rounds.
In a final attempt to start a family, the couple hopes to raise the £ 9,000 to try IVF another time.
Jade and John Burns, both 30, have made a crowdfunding call for £ 9,000 to have the baby they have always dreamed of
Jade Burns (30) was devastated when she discovered that she was unable to conceive and was diagnosed with ovarian failure at the age of 20.
The caregiver suffered two miscarriages after becoming pregnant through an egg donor. Now the couple are no longer eligible for more IVF on the NHS in their area
Mrs. Burns said: & I feel that this is our last chance. I always said I'd try it three times and it would be.
& # 39; I have thought about what my baby will look like, what we will call them, what school they go to and what color we would paint the nursery.
& # 39; I can't see our lives without children in it. It is not really an option. & # 39;
Mrs. Burns, who had never had a menstrual period, visited the doctor at the age of 20 and, after a blood test three weeks later, POF was diagnosed.
Mrs. Burns said: “I had not really had hot flashes, but I did have pain and fatigue – although I had put it in a different state of health.
& # 39; About three weeks after I visited the doctor, just before my 21st birthday, they told me that I was early in the menopause. & # 39;
Mrs. Burns added: & # 39; It was a shock. I never expected them to say that. I love children and have always known that I would want a family, so it was extremely difficult to understand.
Mrs. Burns had known Mr. Burns since she was thirteen and the couple became a few years after Mrs. Burns was diagnosed before she got married in October 2016.
Seven weeks after her first embryo was implanted in April 2018, Ms. Burns suffered a miscarriage despite the fact that the pregnancy went well
WHAT IS PREMIUM OVARIAN FAILURE?
Premature ovarian failure is a loss of the normal function of the ovaries before a woman turns 40.
If the ovaries fail, they do not produce enough of the hormone estrogen or release eggs regularly.
This often results in infertility.
Premature failure of the ovaries affects approximately one in 1,000 women aged 15 to 29 and one in 100 between 30 and 39 years.
It is different from premature menopause because patients with the first condition have irregular periods for years and may even become pregnant.
But the symptoms are often similar to the menopause and include:
- Irregular or skipped periods
- Difficulty getting pregnant
- Hot flashes
- Night sweats
- Vaginal dryness
- Irritability or concentration problems
- Decreased libido
A woman must see her doctor if she has missed her period for three months or more.
Premature ovarian failure can occur due to genetic defects, exposure to toxins such as chemotherapy or an autoimmune disease.
It is more common in women over 35 and in people with a family history of the disorder.
Restoring estrogen levels can help prevent complications such as osteoporosis that may occur as a result of low estrogen.
Calcium and vitamin D supplements can also be important here.
There is no treatment that has been shown to restore fertility in patients with premature ovarian failure.
IVF via donor eggs may be an option for some couples.
Source: Mayo Clinic
& # 39; I started to worry about my future. I was single at the time and wondered if I would ever meet someone who would want to marry me if I couldn't have children.
& # 39; You don't really feel like a woman. You feel that you have turned 30 within a few hours. & # 39;
For most women, the menopause starts between the ages of 45 and 55.
In both the UK and the US, about one in 100 women under 40, one in 1000 women under 30 and one in 10,000 under 20 have experience with POF.
Mrs. Burns had known Mr. Burns since she was thirteen, and the couple turned into POF a few years after Mrs. Burns was diagnosed before she got married in October 2016.
Mrs. Burns said: & # 39; Jon always knew about my diagnosis and that if we had children, this would be through IVF and egg donation. & # 39;
The couple received IVF and egg-independent funding, recognized in December 2016, two months after their marriage, and were matched with three donors between April and November 2017. Unfortunately, they failed.
They received a call to say that they were matched on November 10, 2017 with the fourth donor. The pair had made 13 embryos, two of which were viable.
In April 2018, Ms. Burns had her first embryo implanted, just a few days after her thirtieth birthday. But seven weeks later she suffered a miscarriage.
She said: & # 39; After a painful two-week wait, we were given our first positive pregnancy test and we were all over the moon. We could see this small point on the scan.
& # 39; It went very well but then after five weeks I started bleeding. I had a reassuring scan and everything seemed fine.
& # 39; But a week later I went to the doctor because I felt sick and I started to fail during the doctor's surgery. After seven weeks I had a miscarriage.
& # 39; It was incredibly painful. I went to the hospital and they gave me a cremation form and that was the worst moment. At that moment I realized what they told me. & # 39;
Three months later the couple tried again with the second embryo – but Mrs. Burns miscarried again at six weeks pregnant.
She said: “When we found out that I was pregnant the second time, we felt more worried. We had told many people the first time, but for the second time we kept ourselves, for fear of disguising it.
Three months after the first miscarriage, the couple tried again with the second embryo – but Mrs. Burns miscarried again at six weeks pregnant. Pictured, the first positive pregnancy test
Mrs. Burns said there was not much support after her miscarriages. On the photo, the scan of her first baby before she lost him
Mr. and Mrs. Burns feel that they only have one chance to have a baby themselves
& # 39; The second time was probably harder because I really felt like it was – that was our last chance and it was the end of our family. & # 39;
Mrs. Burns then suffered from anxiety and depression. But she said: & I have not lost hope.
& # 39; We always thought that we would try three times before considering other options, such as surrogacy and adoption.
& # 39; I have a drawer with a small blanket and some clothes in it. We have called the baby & # 39; s that we have lost our two small dots. & # 39;
The couple is now desperate to try again before considering other routes and is seeking help to raise the £ 9,000 that is needed.
The couple must buy another egg donor, which they say costs £ 4,000, and another round of IVF for £ 5,000.
Although the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommends that the NHS fund women under 40 for three IVF rounds, Mrs Burns' local Clinical Commissioning Group would only fund two rounds.
She said: & # 39; Asking for money is not what we wanted to do, but we see crowdfunding as a way to raise awareness of miscarriage, mental health and fertility.
& # 39; A miscarriage occurs in one in four women. I don't feel that much support is offered to help them deal with the mental and physical impact. It is not really talked about and that is something that must change.
& # 39; I also want to raise awareness of early menopause, as this is still a taboo. One in 10,000 women under the age of 20 experiences an early menopause and affects five percent of women under 40. & # 39;
Donate on the page & # 39; Just Giving & # 39; from Mrs. Burns.
HOW DOES IVF WORK?
In vitro fertilization, known as IVF, is a medical procedure in which a woman has an already fertilized egg that is inserted into her womb to conceive.
It is used when couples are unable to conceive naturally, and a sperm and egg are removed from their bodies and combined in a laboratory before the embryo is introduced into the woman.
Once the embryo is in the womb, pregnancy should continue normally.
The procedure can be done using eggs and sperm from a couple or from donors.
Guidelines from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommends that IVF is offered to the NHS for women younger than 43 who have been trying to conceive for two years through regular unprotected sex.
People can also pay for IVF private, which costs an average of £ 3,348 for a single cycle, according to figures published in January 2018, and there is no guarantee of success.
The NHS says conversion rates for women under 35 are around 29 percent, with the chance of a successful cycle diminishing as they age.
About eight million babies are born due to IVF since the first case, the British wife Louise Brown, was born in 1978.