Woman, 24, who suffered from painful sex and became afraid of men, says that CBD lubricant has changed her life
A woman who found sex so painful that she became terrified of men and even pretended to be gay has claimed that a lubricant with cannabidiol (CBD) “changed her life.”
Emma Allitt, 24, a recruitment consultant from London, suffers from vaginism, where the vagina involuntarily narrows when penetration is attempted, causing much discomfort.
From the age of 16, Emma experienced pain during sexual intercourse, but did not know it was abnormal until she hit her twenties.
The situation was so severe that she became deeply afraid of relationships and felt isolated from friends, to the point where she sought therapy to help her through dark times.
Emma Allitt, 24, a London recruitment consultant, suffers from vaginism, the vagina involuntarily tightening when penetration is attempted, causing much discomfort
When she met her current partner, Emma gradually learned to trust him and gradually felt able to enter into a physical relationship.
After thorough research into CBD and the relaxation and pain relief properties, the couple found lubricant steeped in the botanical plant in America.
They tried it out and Emma claims it made a huge difference, and they now use it every time they have sexual intercourse.
“The first time we really had sex with it and realized that I wasn’t in pain, I cried,” she told FEMAIL.
“It has absolutely transformed me, not only sexually, but it also has a positive influence on my self-esteem and body image.”
From the age of 16, Emma experienced pain during sexual intercourse, but didn’t know it was abnormal until she hit her twenties
Emma admitted that she thought painful sex was normal and something that every teenage girl experienced.
“It’s not something we’re talking about in our teenage years, because we’re still trying to figure everything out,” she said.
“It wasn’t until I was in my twenties when I was with my first serious friend that I recognized it as a problem, and certainly not as a” normal “experience for most women.”
Emma said the pain she felt ranged from very uncomfortable to acute, making every experiment in the bedroom almost impossible.
“It’s hard to relax if you always expect pain,” she explained.
The recruitment advisor found sex so painful that she became terrified of men and even pretended to be gay at the university to prevent him from being confronted with it
“Some days are worse than others, but it became rare to experience completely pain-free sex, which then began to affect all my relationships and my self-worth.
‘Psychologically it made me wonder because I didn’t know what was wrong with me and I really started hating my body.
Emma went to her doctor several times and was initially diagnosed with dyspareunia, a comprehensive term for difficult or painful intercourse.
Emma has claimed that a lubricant with cannabidiol (CBD) “changed her life”
Only when she sought specialized gynecologic help did her condition be identified as vaginism.
Emma said it had a knock-on effect on her entire life, with sex itself becoming a huge physical and psychological problem.
“I was completely scared of the opposite sex because I knew I couldn’t enjoy what would be the most intimate part of a relationship,” she recalled.
“I looked up to guys talking to me, I would push away those I liked, I even pretended to be gay for a while at college to stop the relentless asking of friends.
‘It alienates you from so much – not just relationships with men, but also with female friends.
Talking about sex is commonplace and I would shun it. I just couldn’t relate to what they said.
“It meant that many friends did not talk to me about their relationships, which further isolated me, and I could never relax when dating came up – so much of life then and now is based on finding a partner and sex, and it was something that scared me so deeply. “
Emma said she felt deprived of normal adolescence because she couldn’t enjoy her body or anyone else’s because of the fear of the pain that was behind several of her relationships.
Emma said that she feels deprived of normal adolescence because she could not enjoy her body or anyone else because of the fear of the pain that was behind several of her relationships
“I think a lot of them sustained themselves; I just froze no matter when I tried to have sex, “she added.
“I finally left friends when I pushed them away and told myself they would cheat on me or have fun with someone else. Someone “normal”. “
How does the CBD lubricant work?
Cannabidiol, a chemical in the cannabis sativa plant, is known to reduce anxiety and is a natural pain reliever.
The CBD infusion is inspired by the ancient art of the Japanese ‘Nuru’ massage, where bodies bump into each other using a smooth lotion made from exotic botanical products to promote mental and physical stimulation – stimulate energy and focus and endurance to increase.
Haven combines 300 mg of CBD isolate with rose water, which can help with fatigue and anxiety, Evening Primrose Oil, which is known to help combat the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, and MCT Chocolate Mocha, which provides mental and physical stimulation.
The formula is designed to increase blood flow to intimate areas and to stimulate excitement.
Haven Intimate Lotion by Maven is currently reduced from £ 59.99 to £ 29.99. Go to https://mavenhemp.co.uk/ for more information.
Emma regularly tried lube and homeopathic remedies such as sepia and gelsemium, and even went to hypnotherapy.
“I even embarrassed trying to get blind drunk just to numb the pain,” she added. “Sometimes it was bearable – but never enjoyable.”
After she and her partner found the CBD lubricant in the United States, his friends then launched a CBD company – Maven Hemp – that produced cannabidiol lubricant called Haven.
It is not Emma’s favorite product and she admitted that it “changed her life.”
“I didn’t want to use hardcore painkillers, I wanted a natural remedy that worked with my body, so I could really enjoy sex – what I really am for the first time in my life,” she explained.
‘Something about the mix of ingredients and high-spectrum CBD works for me.
‘Have a …. partner that I absolutely love and trust has also encouraged me to solve the problem and have a normal, enjoyable sex life.
‘We have just experimented with Haven and went a little further each time. The first time we used it as a massage oil.
“Knowing it didn’t have to end in sexual intercourse has helped enormously, because it meant that I could feel intense pleasure without worrying,” here comes the painful part.
“I think it mainly relaxed my mind and followed my body. We now use it absolutely every time. ”
WHAT IS VAGINISMUS?
Vaginism occurs when the vagina suddenly tightens when an attempt is made to penetrate.
The woman has no control over it, which can be very painful.
It affects between 0.5 and one percent of women.
In addition to struggling to have vaginal sex, many also find it difficult to use a tampon.
When they reach penetration, patients can experience a burning or stinging sensation.
Vaginism, however, does not necessarily affect a woman’s ability to get excited or enjoy other forms of sexual contact.
Vaginismus often has no clear cause, but can include a woman:
- Fear of her vagina is too small
- Have a bad first sexual experience
- Believing sex is embarrassing or wrong
- Undergo an unpleasant medical examination
- Suffering from an infection or painful condition such as thrush
Vaginism can sometimes occur, even if a woman has had penetrating sex in the past.
If a woman suspects she has vaginism, she must make an appointment to visit her doctor.
The consultation usually includes questions about her symptoms and rarely requires an internal examination.
Treatment is usually therapy to help women understand her feelings about sex and her body. Relaxation techniques such as mindfulness can also help.
Pelvic floor exercises can also help a woman gain control of her vaginal muscles.
In more severe cases, vaginal trainers, which are in the form of tampons and come in different sizes, can help a woman get used to something that has been inserted into her vagina.